tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post6484834260389149455..comments2023-10-29T08:20:47.307-07:00Comments on Ami's Star Song: Maintaining the Road SurfaceAmi Starsonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-51772598581797272292012-12-30T13:14:24.599-08:002012-12-30T13:14:24.599-08:00Hey Elle, and a big welcome to you. Just don'...Hey Elle, and a big welcome to you. Just don't go overboard with the implements to start with. It's not necessary. I can vouch for the fact that a man's hand can get you rosy red! It's also good to feel yourself over your man's knee for lots of reasons. We haven't got as far as a punishment spanking yet and I can't comment on that. Mr BB Spanker is a good friend and confident. He maintains that spanking is, in fact, only a small part of the Dd dynamic. I can really recommend his blog site. His advice is excellent and I now know it to be true and born of his long experience. But we agreed we would try his tolerance ladder, and unfortunately I got very very bruised. Mostly due to Starman's lack of experience. And it was a bit scary. Because mostly I am quite able to cope with the burn (when we use maintenance).<br /><br />What do you mean by the 'frat' one? I'm not to sure of that. <br /><br />Hugs, AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-76993236390710742922012-12-28T15:06:43.666-08:002012-12-28T15:06:43.666-08:00For just starting out, I'm amazed that he did ...For just starting out, I'm amazed that he did this!! It's probably a good idea for us, too. If I can get him on board. We need some sort of implement collection though. We don't have much!! <br /><br />Oh! I know what you mean about not wanting him to see the bruises!! I bruised after the frat one and then last week. I was afraid he would quit, but he didn't! I was surprised! <br /><br />Great blog! :) elle :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15832857681848198913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-53300972712922205972012-12-27T05:26:13.291-08:002012-12-27T05:26:13.291-08:00The only blood thinner I am on is a very small asp...The only blood thinner I am on is a very small aspirin once a day. I didn't think about whether I would bruise or not as I don't usually have much of a tendency to bruise. I'm happy to say that the bruises have now just about gone - and they truly didn't hurt much after the first day. <br /><br />The crying was a really good thing! It was a great relief, although it came as a surprise because I wasn't expecting to cry with such vigour! I was very glad I had my head in a pillow! <br /><br />The experimenting is very worthwhile/important! After all, I brought this to Starman in the first place - I explained to him that I wanted to stand back and be more submissive in our marriage - I have consented to doing this thing. For me, the submissive bit is the most difficult. But I am working on it! If I'm very honest with you, I think I rather like the spanking bit so far, even if it does hurt. So I suppose you could say I have a bit of a kink. But I don't feel kinky! (I wish you could see my big grin Mick!)<br /><br />Hugs, AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-16936152499602924962012-12-27T05:13:57.945-08:002012-12-27T05:13:57.945-08:00Hi Sunny,
Yes, Starman probably was spanking a li...Hi Sunny,<br /><br />Yes, Starman probably was spanking a little too hard, and when he homed in on my sit spots and just stayed there, I went numb. When he roams around I feel every stinging splat! Far more ouchy! Also, I may respectfully request he perhaps might rub a little in between groups of spanks, because at the moment he doesn't. Perhaps it interferes with his train of thought and the pace of the spanking. Maybe when he's more experienced it will occur to him. At the moment my spankings tend to be very fierce but over within ten minutes. And I can state very firmly that you can be spanked an awful lot of times in ten minutes!<br /><br />Hugs, AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-73359663092274435052012-12-27T05:04:06.280-08:002012-12-27T05:04:06.280-08:00I think I worried that Starman bruised my ego more...I think I worried that Starman bruised my ego more than my backside. It looked very spectacular but the bruises have almost gone now. I couldn't go swimming as they were just nicely in view. And they didn't hurt at all after the first day. He's seen them now, and isn't very much concerned thank goodness, but they have faded and he is short-sighted and doesn't wear his contacts in bed! I don't resent being bruised in the least - it's funny, because I originally thought I would. Perhaps I regard it as a right of passage. I'm just so proud of Starman for taking all this in his stride.<br /><br />Hugs, AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-11595938466149722592012-12-27T04:57:32.284-08:002012-12-27T04:57:32.284-08:00Hi Blue Bird, I do hope you had a great Christmas....Hi Blue Bird, I do hope you had a great Christmas. Thank you for your comments. I'm not offended in the slightest - suggest away! We were trying to do this thing called the Tolerance Ladder. The negative side is that we didn't get to try out many implements, but the positive side was that we now know that if spanked too hard on just one spot I will bruise. The thing is that he started off moving all around, and then got fixated on my sit spots. The bruises have nearly gone - only faded blue and about an inch and a half across now. They don't hurt at all. The snag was that after so many spanks on the same spot I went numb and it didn't feel too bad. I've read about this and can vouch for it. To move around a bit is definitely more painful for me. I don't know how I would react if he pinned me down with his leg and gave me a real punishment spanking - I think that maintenance is enough to be going on with. As you say, it's not my choice, so I heed his warnings. I always get two of those, so the ball is in my camp.<br /><br />Hugs, AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-66061489761202259352012-12-23T03:49:48.755-08:002012-12-23T03:49:48.755-08:00Some people bruise more easily, and they're go...Some people bruise more easily, and they're going to happen when there's spanking. You wrote about having a heart attack. Are you on a blood thinner and would that make you bruise easily? <br /><br />He does need to know, so he can make adjustments. The first time I left marks on Lynda, it really bothered me (I'm over it now). <br /><br />You wrote that it made you cry (sob). Was that a good thing or a bad thing. He needs to know that too. <br /><br />This is part of the experimenting. And it part of what you have to work through.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-73511517783972037482012-12-22T15:39:01.852-08:002012-12-22T15:39:01.852-08:00He might be spanking too hard w/o warm up, or diff...He might be spanking too hard w/o warm up, or different implements tend to bruise you. I know I have only bruised twice. If you bruise easily, you might try increasing your iron levels. Talk to Starman and let him know to slow down, rub more, less pressure etc. It's not about beating you black and blue just letting you know who's boss, right. .Granted it's his decision but he needs your input. Mind you, we're not dd so I might be talking through my hat.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-46342383764024456152012-12-22T14:40:56.296-08:002012-12-22T14:40:56.296-08:00Well, bruising happens sometimes. I don't brui...Well, bruising happens sometimes. I don't bruise every time, but some things are more prone than others to cause it. <br /><br />I think its good to be honest with him. He's in charge, and he needs to know the good and the bad. Stormyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16673792378276047115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7100475796740896413.post-56016872143241337752012-12-22T13:20:03.140-08:002012-12-22T13:20:03.140-08:00You have to let him know. It may be any number of ...You have to let him know. It may be any number of things that caused the bruising. Some people pause and massage every twenty or thirty or so to control bruising. He could have been catching to much of the side of the implement. He has to be told. But you can wait for them to fade so he doesn't freak to much. If you are trying to do domestic discipline, you can make suggestions, but it is his decision. It sounded like you were leading above.<br />Sorry, didn't mean to offend. I have a tendency to be very blunt. But this is what I got from what I read. All my best to you both.Blue Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06173540938552974351noreply@blogger.com