Thursday, 21 July 2016

Sexy Spankings? Oh Yes!

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It feels good to be back. Hopefully for a little longer this time. LOL! And a huge thank you to Minelle for explaining to everyone that I would be absent for a while, and to all my other blogland friends who have kept me positive these past couple of months. Dan still has ongoing health issues, and had a cardiogram today - still trying to find out what exactly the cyst is that has appeared in his chest very near to his heart. This was detected during procedures for entirely other stuff, and we were, for a time, scared witless. However, the Consultant feels 99% sure it is non-malignant, so we are keeping our fingers, and everything else, crossed.

For this reason, I need to write a lighthearted post, and it occurs to me that I have often been asked to talk about our "sexy spankings" and explain, or try to, how these seem to have completely taken over our lives.

I would also like to thank Ella, who has made the pictures possible! We still have computer problems, but I think at long last my moaning is beginning to make an impression!

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I'm not sure where to begin exactly, but I will say that we both have a much more laid back approach to spanking these days, than when we started out. We are less frenetic, less uptight. It's a part of our lives. It feels as natural as eating, drinking or sleeping. It's an integral part of us.

What we hadn't realised at the start, was how important it would become to the both of us. If you had told us about it ten years' ago, we would have laughed like drains and said "How crazy." I don't think we, and Dan especially, had any idea how it would affect us - our marriage, our relationship, the depth of our feelings, and how we would respond to each other.

In a way, we reinvented our relationship. Our marriage was mostly good, apart from some distancing from time to time, but TTWD has caused us to rewrite the rules. In an easy way. With no holds barred.

To put a finer point on it, we feel more sexy now, at our ages, than at any time in our lives perhaps excepting the very early years of our marriage, and even then, we were like babes, we had no experience, and no idea how to acquire it.




When I read 50 Shades (don't cringe!!) I discovered a me that I hadn't known existed. I can categorically state, that if it wasn't for that book, I would never had dared to venture to do, and suggest stuff to Dan, that we now take for granted, and I would certainly never have thought of typing the word "Spanking" into Google!!

I am not going to discuss how we started out, as it is all here amongst my old posts, the good, the bad and the ugly! (Apart from some posts I had to take down due to horrible "trolls" who wouldn't leave me alone!)

We tend to have our spanking sessions more in the mornings. Alas, we are no longer spring chickens, and even Dan admits that it is the mornings when he feels more perky. LOL! Now we are both retired, we can take our time. And believe me, we do. The times his 88 year old mother has rung up at 10am and we are happily in the middle of something. Good grief! It is so pleasurable not having to get up at 5.30 in the morning!

I love to have my body stroked. I will literally purr. It is the best thing ever. 

Sometimes he will pull me over his lap and run a finger up and down my spine. I go into ecstasy like a cat. I can get sexily feisty, or writhe happily ensuring he has easy access to my bottom. (The writhing also does great things for him. This wonderful dynamic!) Sometimes he will use one implement, sometimes several, sometimes just his hand. (Believe me, that can feel like a chunk of wood!)

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It matters not. Sometimes he will give me a good warm up, and sometimes he will go straight into some high powered swats. Gone is the Dan who was nervous of bruising, although I have to say that he is very careful of my spine, and now he has discovered the art of spanking the tops of thighs, he tends to go lower rather than higher. 

He likes to make it sting! He likes to spank the same spot over and over. He likes to stretch the skin with one hand, and spank, using an implement, on the taut surface of my bottom or thighs. 

It starts out feeling like love pats. It ends burning like I've been stung by a swarm of hornets. 

Sometimes he pauses and rubs, sometimes it feels like a metronome. Swat, swat, swat, swat.

He has learned to hold me in place. I will often try to "swim" forward, but now if I manage it, I get hauled back. Occasionally he will grab my hair, but that is more often during sex.

He will play games, like "Guess the Tune". He will tease me and joke. Sometimes he will spank during sex itself, and that can be amazing.

If I go too long without a spanking, I can feel myself slide downhill. All the joy goes. I feel sluggish and uncooperative. I get sassy and argumentative. I become indifferent and start to distance.

Dan knows, just by my physical responses to his touch, when I am beginning to slide. I am instructed to tell him, if he hasn't already realised it for himself, and to ask to be spanked. (Sometimes these spankings are not so nice.)



Spanking, for me at least, has become like a drug. Fortunately it cannot harm any one else, and it is free to participate in - but I get a high from it nevertheless. Neither of us foresaw how much closer it would bring us, nor how much we would come to love it.

Sex after a spanking can be as different as the spanking itself. It can be slow and tender, each wishing to give to the other. Or it can be like a lion with his lioness. Neither wanting to give an inch. There is nothing a woman likes better than a strong man who is determined to have his way. LOL!



After a good, sexy spanking session, I am like the cat who has had the cream!

It's so strange, we always feel like a full English breakfast! Snort! (I even enjoy sitting on our wooden kitchen chairs!)

I smile for the rest of the day!

37 comments:

  1. Hi Ami, it's so good to hear from you. Retirement is obviously doing you both the world of good, with time for all those sexy spankings. Crossing fingers here too that all goes well with Dan.
    Rosie xx

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    1. Hi Rosie, and thanks.

      Sexy spankings are the best! They eclipse all others in my book!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  2. Hi Ami, lovely ost, glad you are both so happy. I hope Dan gets good results, have my fingers crossed for him
    love Jan, xx

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    1. Thanks, Jan!

      It's summertime and the living is easy!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  3. Good to see you here. I'm glad Dan's results aren't scarying you witless any longer. Waiting for test results is so worrying.
    I wish P would spank a tune on my butt, it might give me something to hum along to, instead of whimpering!
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Thank you, DF.

      Playing tunes on your butt is good, but the spanks can still feel very ouchy! Also, being Dan, I never know for sure whether or not he is going to add some "Don't do that again" spanks!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  4. Ami,
    What a great post that captures so much of how we do Ttwd. I love that you and Dan are feeling better, enjoying retirement and some good spanky time.
    Good for you.
    Meredith

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    1. Thank you very much, Mere. I think sometimes that spanking was invented for retirement!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  5. What a lovely post. I enjoyed it very much, smiling and nodding all the way through it. Glad to hear everyone is feeling better. Keep enjoying and taking care of each other.

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    1. Hi Laurel! I am so glad this post struck a chord with you!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  6. Wonderful post. Glad things have turned out so well with Dan's medical problems and that you've both found your stride. Lucky you and Lucky Dan. I wonder if EL James knows how many couples she's helped?

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    1. Hi Sunny! I personally think that EL James has helped more people "of a certain age" than she will ever know!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  7. Smiling as I read this this...and now as I think about it. Glad to hear that it seems that Dan's problems are not major ones. And I do absolutely agree...retirement does have fringe benefits I..We..never expected! And as for getting older..I second the notion...my sex life has never been better...
    hugs abby

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    1. And I am smiling widely as I read your comment, Abby!

      I do hope you enjoy your cruise! Don't forget us!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  8. Great to see you post again. This is quite an advertisement for retirement.

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    1. Thank you so much! I can tell you that retirement is just great!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  9. Hi Ami, wonderful to hear from you. This made me smile too :) So glad you and Dan have found what works for you and that you have so much fun with ttwd. Sexy spankings are definitely the best kind :)

    So glad to hear Dan's medical problems don't appear as scary as you initially thought. Sending positive thoughts and crossing fingers for the results.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thank you, Roz for your kind words.

      Sexy spankings are soooo much fun!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  10. Ami, this post just sparkles with your satisfaction and harmony. That makes me so happy for you.

    I agree with you on what it adds to our sex lives, too! I could never go back. Sex without spanking sounds drab and boring.

    Dan and you are very special!

    Hugs Across the Pond,
    Ella

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    1. Sex without spanking IS drab and boring for the most part! LOL!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  11. I just adored this post, Ami! :) And I adore you and Dan too!

    I found myself nodding and nodding at what you have written here, because it is so much like what Rob and I experience. From your start with EL James, to how you just live like this now- that it has become natural, and a part of you both. I think that it is really terrific!

    I say it all the time, but it is so neat how we both lurked, and popped out at the same time a few (WOW) years ago. How you asked all the questions that I was thinking, but was too shy to ask at the time. How we both evolved with our fellas, in our own ways, but little by little. How they took to it- "Be careful what you ask for"! HAHA! Right! I am sitting on a "hot spot" right now, after a splendid "daily"! LOL!

    Sexy spankings are... oh so sexy, and hot Hot HOT these days. And to think, after all these years, we can "carry on" like teens (well, minus the inability to do major gymnastic moves at this age), only WAY better! How lucky we all are!

    I am truly happy that things are looking up in terms of Dan's medical. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing the special love, as well as loving and spanky ways, that you and Dan now enjoy! Wonderful! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Major gymnastic moves!!? Shriek! I have difficulty getting up if I am down on the floor getting pans out of a cupboard!

      You gotta love this life though, don't you?!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  12. Wonderful post Ami. Sounds like you and Dan have it all figured out now and the loves showing through. Hope Dan gets good results. Sending Positive vibes to both of you.
    Hugs Lindy

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    1. Thank you, Lindy, especially for the positive vibes.

      We mostly have it figured out, but then, it doesn't do to get too complacent or my bottom suffers!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  13. Good to see you Ami,

    I loved this post, wonderful. Made me smile. I am so happy for you.

    Keeping you and Dan in my thoughts.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Thanks, Ronnie!

      I think we both agree that it's the sexy spankings that are the best!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  14. I know. I know. Fifty Shades has been picked apart for being poorly written and all that other blah blah blah but look at the EL James has done for so many of us!!! Very nice post. Thanks for sharing.

    ~Eva

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    1. Thank you so much, Eva. All I can say is that good old Fifty most certainly helped me. I shall always love that book!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  15. these spankings sound wonderful! :-) I am glad you are both doing well. It is nice to see you here. Big hugs to you!

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    1. They ARE wonderful. Mostly.

      Thank you so much for your nice comments.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  16. Ami... Truly, what an amazing post. You have very well articulated some of the very same things I have thought.
    I hope Dan receives a clean bill of health. Having those health scares can be quite frightening and certainly can change the dynamics of TTWD. We, too, have just gone through some very difficult and challenging times with unexpected health issues that scared the life out of me and it changed TTWD so much that it was frightening. Thank goodness, we are moving back in the right direction. I had to laugh when you talked about typing the word "spanking" into google. Boy when I did that.. what an eye opener it was for me. Glad to know you and others do the same thing. Any who.. enjoy your time of reuniting and moving forward. After all.. these truly are the best years of our lives. Wishing you both much happiness in all ways possible.

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    1. What truly wonderful sentiments, Annabelle! Thank you!

      We are still soldiering on re health problems, and have decided to have more "fun" with spanking and not take it as seriously as previously. Strangely, it has really helped us to think along those lines.

      I DO hope you are both coping with any health worries you may have, and I send you hugs and positive thoughts!

      These are most certainly the best years of our lives!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  17. ROFLMBO Ami! I remember when Dan used to be worried about bruising you...now he just whales away. ;) But you are still swimming are ya? Happy you two are really finding your pace.

    Sending lots of prayers, healing energy and positive thoughts your way. Just remember...stress is not your friend.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Aw, Cat! You know us so well! Remember when you told Dan not to swing his whole arm and just to flick his wrist? I can vouch for the fact that after the first five minutes or so it still lights a fire like a nest of bees! And I am most certainly still swimming forwards, but he has learned to pull me back and secure me with his leg! Ouchy!

      Thanks for your nice comments!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  18. Hi Ami,

    I just wanted to make contact as I am so enjoying reading your blog! I am currently making my way through and am currently in 2013! Your journey sounds amazing and it is so helpful for me to read. My husband and I have been trying to live a TTWD/DD lifestyle for the last five years or so, and only now have we finally reached a proper rhythm. It is quite a ride and it is great to read about your insights. I also live in the English countryside, it's lovely to know someone else lives this way in a similar environment!

    Wishing you all the best and thanks for the posts!

    D.

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    1. Hi Dolores! Very nice to meet a fellow English country girl!

      I am sorry but I had to take some of my earlier posts down due to "trolls" making stupid comments. So there are some gaps.

      Please feel free to email me if you would like. I recently met up with several other LOVELY English ladies, and one adventurous American lady, for a wonderful lunch.

      I am glad you are finding your own way in TTWD. It is good to hear from you.

      Hugs
      Ami

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