Saturday, 4 February 2017

Braving the Seas

"Ouch! What was that for?"

"Because you needed it."

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I grinned from ear to ear because it proved that Dan was feeling better.

It's been a long haul, and we aren't completely out of the woods yet due to Dan having problems with his salivary glands, (they swell from time to time and he looks like a chipmunk) but I am hopeful that at last we can begin to return to a semblance of normality.

I feel as if I have done nothing but stop/start over the past year. In the end I just had to stand back and make the decision to take a break. In view of the fact that we chalked up more than twenty five hospital visits to five hospitals, I think I made the right decision.

All I can say is that we are both feeling very relieved that the large cyst found (totally by accident during a shoulder scan) in Dan's chest, has been removed, and has been found to be completely benign.

I am not going to refer to all our various medical problems any more, but instead I wanted to write about what it is like to be forced to take a break from ttwd and the resultant effects.

I remember very well, in the past, reading various wailings and gnashing of teeth when this happened to other people, but it is the first time it has happened to us. Like all new experiences, it takes some getting your head around. For me, at any rate.

We gradually ground to a halt around November. Spankings got fewer and fewer, and finally, due to the pain it was causing Dan, stopped altogether.

It is very easy to blame the husband when this happens. I realise that now. But actually, I think it is a measure of the strength of ttwd that you know in your heart that at some time in the future you will continue.

What was its effect on me? 

I slid. No doubt about that. I think, to a certain extent, that you are bound to slide.

We were in the very comfortable position of Dan taking the lead and making all the final decisions. You can get rather complacent about it. Sometimes he would moan that I left too much to him. But then I would simply remind him that I was meant to have my say in order that he could then make an 'informed decision'. That way I couldn't turn around and accuse him of ignoring my opinion, and of being domineering. 

Sometimes Dan will decide that my way is best. Just because the man leads, doesn't make him right all the time. Dan is usually right, but it is nice to know that the five per cent (or whatever) of times I am right he will acknowledge that fact.

However, you remember the Captain of the Ship thing? How the wife is the Number 2 in line of command? I can honestly say that there have been months when I have had to completely take over and steer the ship.

I was happy to do so, but extremely happy that at the back of my mind I had a little voice that assured me that Dan would be taking over again as soon as he was able.

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Steering the ship comes with its problems. 

It didn't take any time at all for me to return to the old Ami who walked all over Dan, who disagreed with everything he said and refused to discuss why, who got ratty and bad-tempered, and who got extremely stressed.

It was necessary at times, almost as a means of self defence against the dark side of Dan. I can tell you that he is a most wonderful husband, but a hopeless patient. Like the majority of men, he is not very good at being told to rest, to takes things easy, to stop moaning. (eg they shaved areas of his chest to put heart monitors into position, and Dan is still moaning about how itchy it is. For goodness sake, when I think about us girls and waxing, it makes me frenzied!

So about a week ago he pops me one on my bottom. The day after, if the worktops weren't made of granite, and the window didn't look straight out on to the street, things might have been very hot indeed. (Actually I was terrified Dan's lung might collapse again or something.)

Then I noticed the swats were definitely back. Even in passing. Even in front of friends.

My time as Captain was over. I wondered how long before the real spanking came along.

I didn't have to wait long. The paddle was produced and Dan made up for his absence. My bottom was glowing. I thought there might be bruises, or at least some marks after such a long pause, but no, just a very healthy shade of crimson.

It never ceases to amaze me that I can go about my day surreptitiously rubbing my rear end, and yet the redness is gone within the hour. Now how can that be? Dan never holds back. It continues to have a warm/sore feeling, but nothing the eye can see. Sigh.

At one point I implored him to remember to give me a warm up. Dan, happily paddling away simply informed me that "This is the warm up."

How do I feel now he is back in charge? One word. Relieved. I don't enjoy being the shrewish wife any more. Leading is just too tough. I prefer the peace and harmony we worked so hard to achieve. That means I am the back up.

And believe me, I still don't feel like I have a single submissive bone in my body. I am too sassy for my own good. My mouth often has a life of its own. Just not so much these days as in the past. 

"Come here, I'm going to give you a smack" he says. (Heaven knows why he can't use the word 'spank'.) My heart literally leaps with joy.

We mostly have fun spankings these days.  Drool.

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This doesn't mean that the other type are off limits, but that once you become a spankoholic it seems silly not to take advantage of it. Smirk.

I continue get "Do as you are told" from Dan. I continue to get the raised eyebrow. I continue to get the occasional flurry of hard and stinging swats across the tops of my thighs when I have rocked the boat. 

But the best thing is that we have sailed close to the wind and the boat hasn't overturned. 

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Neither of us have been hit by the boom as she came around, nor messed up the lines, nor torn the sails. 

I want to thank all of you who have helped keep us afloat. Dan has had some of the most wonderfully rude and funny cards, and kind messages.

I do hope that I can manage to blog a little more regularly. I still need to buy a new keyboard and a remote controlled mouse, but hey, what is that in the grand scheme of things!

  

26 comments:

  1. hi Ami, Oh I am so glad to hear from you that Dan is alright and that spanking is back on the agenda. Great news that Dan is feeling better, let the games recommence :)
    love Jan, xx

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    1. Thank you so much, Jan. The games are most certainly commencing! Giggle!

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      Ami

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  2. Ami,
    "A healthy shade of crimson" It is very good to see you are back with us. You have been missed. Glad to read that Dan is better, much, much better.
    Meredith

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    1. Thank you, Sweetie. It IS good to be back.

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      Ami

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  3. I also was so happy to see and read this post. Wishing you lots of happy sailing ahead...and more rosy bottoms. hugs abby

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    1. Thank you, Abby. I am looking forward to our return to normal.

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      Ami

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  4. I have missed you here Ami but am so happy to her from you and earn that Dan is doing better day by day. What an interesting post you have from your perspective as to what happens when life hands you lemons and you have to make changes that you would most prefer not to. Everything you shared sounds very normal in response to the stress you were both under in the moment. Of course you are a strong women and can handle things as they become necessary whether you want to or not. I am thinking in doing so it does place things into perspective and gives us a finer appreciation of what our men do for us whether we agree or not. Looks like you both weathered this storm and here's wishing you both smooth sailing in the days ahead.

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    1. Thank you very much, Annabelle. There have been a lot of lemons round here of late. I am so glad I can at last hand back the reins.

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      Ami

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  5. Ami, great to see you here again and to hear that Dan is so much better now. As for having to take over, needs must when the devil drives, you did what you had to do to keep the ship afloat. Good to know that Dan is back at the helm and giving you the rosy glow you've missed.

    Rosie xx

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    1. Thanks, Honey. It's good to be back and I just hope I can think of some interesting things to write about.

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      Ami

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  6. So very happy to hear the good news, Ami! You and Dan sound like you're getting back on track and Ami's ush is regularly going to be a "health shade of crimson". Looking forward to seeing more of you around blogland. :)

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Thanks, Cat. It's good to be back and throw myself into the fray.

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      Ami

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  7. Hi Ami,so very happy to see you back and to hear Dan is doing so much better. Happy to hear things are getting back on track again with Dan at the helm.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thank you, Roz. He most certainly IS back at the helm. LOL!

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      Ami

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  8. Well, this is a wonderful surprise! Have thought so much about you and Dan these last months. Have also wondered if a good spanking was in your future. So happy to know that not only does he have his car keys back, but he hasn't forgotten how great it feels to be the leader.

    Much Love,
    Ella

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    1. Hi Ella! Yes, I am back, thank you. And would you believe it, he has gone straight for that blessed wooden paddle!

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      Ami

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  9. Ami, so good to see you and great to hear Dan is so much better and you are getting back on track. Makes happy reading.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Thanks, Ronnie. I am VERY glad to be back!

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      Ami

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  10. Oh darlin, I was so happy to see you decided to write! Yaaaaayyyy! Your laughter here was missed!
    True about how we adjust to all the things that make life difficult, however we know 'our' normal and it's version of TTWD will return!
    Crimson is a wonderful color and I can see many variations of the hue in your future!
    So glad your man is back to himself, now you can relax and find your peace again!

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    1. Thank you so much, Minelle. You may think crimson is a good colour, but it depends on where it is! LOL!

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      Ami

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  11. Oh I can't tell you how happy I am to see you here! :-) I am glad that Dan is starting to feel better and you are both finding your way again. :-) Enjoy the many shades of pink Hugs

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    1. Hi Terps! I am glad to be here, too! Thank you.

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      Ami

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  12. Darlin Ami:
    So nice to see you back, best wishes for Dan's improving condition.

    Rick

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    1. Thanks so much, Rick. I am glad to be back!

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      Ami

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