I was going to leave this post till after our move, but I thought I would go ahead with it regardless. If I don't answer your comment until next week, don't worry, it will only be due to us switching telephone/internet providers and not having any broadband.
I suppose in a way this links in to my last post about Dan suddenly discovering that he enjoys to swat me on the bottom with increasingly regularity, despite the fact that most of you are used to this sort of spanky demonstration of HOHiness. I hesitate to call it a spank, as it is only one, but it can happen at any time, and usually when I am not expecting it.
It can have all sorts of connotations, such as a quick warning swipe, an "I just can't resist swatting you when you bend over like that" spank, a swift volley during love-making, and even a quick love pat when he comes to bed (I am nearly always asleep and it wakes me up) as if he is just reminding me of possession.
The reason I am noticing this is due to the fact that Dan never ever spanked me in any way at all, during our entire marriage, until I asked him to just over a year ago. I have never suggested any of these quick swats - they are entirely his own idea, and long may they continue.
But there are some other differences in Dan that I am noticing too. Just very small differences, but they seem to be on the increase.
He now regularly lifts one eyebrow.
For example, we have a TV in our bedroom. It is seldom watched except in the mornings, for the news and weather. Dan will sit up in bed sipping his morning tea (we often take it in turns these days to make the tea) and he will be commenting on the news/weather or going through what is on the agenda for the day. With me, the news goes in one ear and out the other unless it is extra interesting.
So the other morning I decided to read my Kindle whilst he watched the TV. This worked okay for about ten minutes, then I was aware of the silence. Dan had switched it off and was watching me instead.
"Put your Kindle down and give me a kiss" he said.
Immediately I was on high alert. What had I done?
"I was only reading while you were watching the news" I told him, putting it away. Whereupon he put a hand behind my neck, pulling me towards him, and repeated his request.
When he was satisfied I was spanked and then given another instruction, before we both looked at the clock in horror, and nearly collided as we raced each other into the shower. It was an unexpected start to my morning which made it all the more enjoyable.
The other thing I have noticed about Dan is his sudden concern for my safety and welfare.
I'm bewildered by it. I've always had to carry my mobile phone with me when driving, ever since I had a puncture on a very busy dual carriageway and decided to walk for help. He's also not keen on me climbing ladders of any height above two feet, as I wobble. But now he has several times ordered me to go to bed as he has observed me to be "dead on my feet", forbidden me to lift anything he discerns is even remotely heavy, and even insisted I go for a longish walk as he felt I should get some fresh air and exercise. What on earth is all this?! Is there something I should know?
Finally, (and I have saved the best till last), something very strange seems to have happened to my body.
Lillie (of Lillie and Ian - she used to have the most wonderful blog) described it as the clitoral tug. With me, it seems to have become a full body jerk!
I can't stop it and it's getting worse - or more prolific!
It started when Dan caressed my bosoms (he always used to be a boob man), but it now happens when he strokes my bottom, or in fact, any other part of me. It has been known to happen even if he just runs his finger down my thigh, or my arm.
It's a bit like a mini electric shock. My whole body - not just my pelvis - gives a reactive jerk.
At first we thought it was funny, but now my body has developed a mind of its own. The slightest intimate contact and it responds. I go so far as to say that even after making love, my body has what can only be described as aftershocks.
Whilst I am secretly smug and exhilarated, Dan is perplexed, and worried that I will react to someone else just brushing past me.
If you do have anything to say to allay my fears that my kinkiness has reached even greater heights, please tell me. I don't want this to stop, but oh it is rather weird.
Weird but wonderful. I keep thinking that I've been missing out all these years, and that you all know about this effect, but have kept it from me. Hmmmm...
Wonderful post...good luck with the move. I have those after shock tremors also...have never had them with anyone else. Master loves them....He considers it a compliment .
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Moving day tomorrow! Help!
DeleteSo glad to hear you have after-shocks as well. Very reassuring. Thanks Abby.
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Ami
I have the aftershocks too. I always just thought it was my bodies way of acknowledging who really owns it, and it ain't me, lol :)
ReplyDeleteOh goodie, you have them as well! I am getting more and more relieved.
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Ami
Ami,
ReplyDeleteI love this post......... Dan and Jack sound a lot alike........ they want our full attention, and no tech items allowed. I love the after shocks and tremors......... I ove them very much!
Meredith
Thank you, Meredith, that is a compliment indeed. I am getting happier and happier to hear that nearly everyone around here gets these after-shocks and tremors.
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Ami
*raises hand* me too! Only with my husband. For me it's tied up with my love and feelings for him which is tied up with our trust and love, so no - no-one else has ANY chance of causing it!
ReplyDeleteHi mc kitten! Thank you for commenting. I am relieved so many folk around here know exactly what I am talking about. Hooray!
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Ami
Sounds like he's found his HOH groove! And ya gotta love those sensations. The idea that you'd respond that way to anyone other than your husband though had me laughing. Can you imagine someone brushing past you in the supermarket or something? But that's just not going to happen. That's not how a woman is wired. Your reaction has to do with the mental, physical, and emotional connection the two of you have. So, tell your guy not to worry and just enjoy! :)
ReplyDeleteI think, more and more these days. Just took a time to kindle the flame I suppose. Yes, that would be awful in a supermarket or on a train. Yuck. Thank goodness you understand what I am on about, and can reassure me that my body will only respond to Dan. I told him what everyone has said and thank you, he does feel much better about it now.
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Ami
Hey Ami...I had those shock tremors with Matthew all the time. Had them with my ex until things went bad and then didn't have them anymore...still don't and he is always hugging me when he's over here...no tremors. ;)
ReplyDeleteDon't be concerned about having them with anyone else...you won't and if you're weird...you're in good company...so are the rest of us!
Hope your move goes off well.
Hugs and Blessings...
Cat
Cat Honey? Are you sure there aren't any other things I need to know that no-one has mentioned till now? LOL!
DeleteNice to know you are weird as well, and lots of other folk around here. I do feel happier now. Remember - I'm an ex Convent school girl! How could I know all about these things? LOL! So funny....
Moving day tomorrow! Help!
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Ami
I have experienced those 'tremors' too, so you are not alone.
ReplyDeleteReally, really glad to hear this!
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Ami
I think everything sounds peachy in your world! It sounds as if you both are just allowing your love to shine out.
ReplyDeleteAh, thank you, Minelle. If we weren't so stressed with everything else we would be on cloud nine. Do you remember Marilyn Monroe singing a song about a Peach Tree? Was it in the River of No Return with Robert Mitchum? Or another film? LOL!
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Ami
Ahhhhh you're so cute :) the way you always think something is weird and the rest of us are hiding things from you, you make me smile :)
ReplyDeleteHoney I think it's called LOVE :) you're reacting to his touch and how he feels about you, it's that little spark, the, butterflies , the crumbling in your belly, it's nice isn't it, just like being a teenager again. Oh and I think unless your an extreme sex craved girl who enjoys multiple partners, you will only react to Dan's touch and not every person who brushes past you.
Oh and the swatting thing, I don't like it. He's done this to me since we met and has received some dirty looks from my dad and my brother over the years for it. He does it no matter where we are, or who's there, and even though at times it's funny, more than usual it's a bit annoying, I've actually dropped things I was holding when he's come at me without warning and swatted me :( but as annoyed as I get I wouldn't really change him, well not completely haha
Good luck with your move honey, hope things go smooth and that your internet follows you without hassle :)
Hugs x
Missy, I am now rolling around on the floor laughing. But I am certain you do hide things from me. (She says batting her eyelids and not melting the butter in her mouth a single bit.) LOL!
DeleteI could be an "extreme sex craved girl" - but only with Dan.....
You are VERY LUCKY HAVING BEEN SWATTED FOR YEARS! I am really enjoying the novelty of it. It is so funny that he has just started to do it. I walk around sometimes with a big grin on my face, thinking about it.
Moving day tomorrow. Help!
Many hugs
Ami
LOVED this post Ami! It's so sweet reading about the two of you and how attentive your husband is to all these little details!
ReplyDeleteAs for the tug... I don't have any other advice except to enjoy it. You're right too that it won't happen with anyone else. You are just really in tune to your man :)
hugs and love
sara
Thank you, Sara. Yes, the little details seem to be noticed all the time these days. To think that this time last year I was grumbling all the time. Hmmm.....
DeleteI am very relieved to know everyone else here gets these tremors too.
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Ami
It sounds like a wonderful connected place you are both in. Enjoy. Good luck with the move. Thinking of you and sending hugs. :-)
ReplyDeleteHi Terps, and thank you. Not looking forward to our move tomorrow! And it's pouring with rain, too.
DeleteWe do seem to be more connected these days than we used to be. So that must be a good thing.
Many hugs
Ami
I get those tremors, and have never had them with anyone else. :). I think you are safe. Though, love hearing how your man is getting that HoH Hat on old! :) :). And doesn't make you feel all warm and safe and loved inside?
ReplyDelete{{{hugs}}} EsMay
Hi Es May, and I am very glad you know all about these tremors.
DeleteBelieve me, it's taken a very long time for Dan to realise the HOH hat is for real, and that he is now going to wear it more regularly. Could be fun around here from now on.
Many hugs
Ami
Hi Ami!! :). I loved this post and am thinking that your Dan sounds an awful lot like Rob these days!! Gosh the changes are pretty amazing- in both parties, right?? I mean who would have thought that two people could be so in love and loving and connected to produce such things as involuntary physical reactions- tremors and all? It sounds kinda awesome!! I'm pretty sure that you don't have to worry about the same with other guys. Just enjoy the love with your man!! :)
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean about all the swatty stuff. Rob is a real swatter too and I'd miss it I think, if it suddenly disappeared. It's fun! Most of the time! Ha!! I played a game in my head the last time I came back from visiting my parents, to see how long before Rob gave me a swat! Do you know it was less than a minute!! As he walked behing me helping me with my bag!! I think that once they start, they can't help themselves?? YAAAY! LOLOL!!
I hope your move is going well!! Moving is lots of work whether it is near or far!! Perhaps a Pims No1 when you put your feet up?? Lol!!! Many hugs and all the best with the move. You sound like you are in a great place!
<3 Katie
Hi Katie and I am sorry to be so long in getting back to your comment but with moving house and no internet things have been a bit fraught.
DeleteI think your Rob swats rather more than Dan, but he is well on the way! It's the public ones I giggle about.
Don't know about Pims, but I have quaffed many a glass of Sauvignon Blanc recently!
Many hugs
Ami
Hi Ami, sorry I am so late to this. Loved this! Sounds like Dan has his HoH hat firmly on his head. Oh yes .. the swatting, the eyebrow, the protectiveness. Love it all! lol. Oh, and the aftershocks ... yep :)
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Roz
Hi Roz! I don't mind late. I think you are right, but he is only an HOH in his own funny little way. More determined to prevent than cure! LOL!
DeleteAt least we have finished our move. All we need now is our internet and phone lines fixing up, and we will be more or less back to normal.
Many hugs
Ami