Monday 7 April 2014

Riders

This has nothing to do with the sexy novel by Jilly Cooper - although I remember it well. It is one of the very few books I have ever managed to get Dan to read. This has to do with re-starting our spanking dynamic now that Dan is virtually back to normal.



I rode horses all my life, for both pleasure and in competitions. One of the most important rules I was given as a child, was that if I fell off, to get straight back on again. 



The only time I ever deviated from that rule was when I was so badly smashed up I got carted off to hospital instead.

I am happy to report that Dan is feeling and looking great.  As soon as he got rid of that nasty catheter his temperament improved and he felt more positive.  So far he has suffered no side effects (touch wood) which we are all viewing as pretty much incredible.  I told him it was because so many people had him on their prayer lists, and I know he is very grateful for everyone's good wishes and support.  It has been a very trying time, but we are now getting on with our lives and putting it behind us.  Hopefully the procedure will have worked, but if he has to repeat it at some time down the line, at least we know what to expect.

I can now tell you that I am still getting over my own little incident.  Just four days before going to London for Dan's operation, I fell down the stairs from the top to the bottom.

  
I didn't say anything, only to one or two people, because I didn't want any fuss. I was more concerned with Dan than with myself. However, it shook me up, gave me "gravel rash" from the sisal carpet on several areas from bosom to ankle, and the rest was quite simply black and purple with bruising - all down my right side.  I looked, and felt, like I had been hit by a truck.  

It was quite early one morning, and I was being inattentive whilst carrying a tea tray and chatting over my shoulder, and I slipped (in some stupid and now forbidden slippers - most aptly named), missed the first step, and went down those stairs like a toboggan. And I was, shall we way, au naturel at the time, hence the gravel rash.  Luckily, although my ribs were badly bruised, and possibly cracked, I didn't break anything. But I lay in a heap at the bottom in Dan's arms and couldn't even cry I was so shocked by it all.

Anyhow, that is in the past, and the bruising is now at the sickly yellow stage.  The main difficulty has been to do with very little spanking.  

We discussed this in depth before Dan's operation, and we even had alternative positions/locations in which he would be able to spank me, all sorted out in our minds. But what with Dan having that horrid catheter, and me being black and blue with gaping sores on my hip and thigh - believe me when I say my right buttock was completely black all over - it has not been a picnic around here.

As an aside, I do have to confess that Dan spanked me three days afterwards, and just before we went to London, because he said he wanted me to be careful with stairs in the future.  It was quite a short spanking and was carried out very carefully and only affected the tops of my thighs and mostly my left thigh, so he wasn't being sadistic, but he felt it had to be brought to my attention that I should wear sensible footwear in future and not stupid slippers with shiny, slidey soles. I have hidden the aforesaid slippers away in the very back of my closet - probably never to see the light of day again, as I did not enjoy that spanking one bit.

But since then, I have had only one spanking, and that ended up being aborted due to difficulty finding anywhere not bruised in order to spank.  Dan noticed I was getting a little effervescent - you know, the stage in which you start to fizz out of the bottle - and decided to put an end to it.  But he caught me on my bruises and it hurt so much I yelled at him to stop and practically crawled forwards down off his lap and on to the floor like a slug.  Unfortunately the deep inner muscle was far more bruised than we'd at first thought. 

So here we are, three weeks down the line, and I can see myself becoming crabby, argumentative and provocative.  Instead of being able to climb back on the horse, I am still leading the blessed thing around by the reins and looking longingly up at the saddle. What a state of affairs.

We did discuss the situation this morning.  Dan discovered, to his excitement and surprise, that one particular side effect he had been warned about, has not materialised.  We were both quite stunned.  But not being ones to turn down an opportunity when it presents itself, suffice it to say that we made the most of it.  Smirk.

Afterwards as I lay face down in a state of exhaustion he gave me a sudden sharp swipe across the bruised part of me.  I flinched, mainly because I wasn't expecting the spank, than from pain, but Dan said that he would wait until next weekend to address my attitude and misdemeanours. Significant attitude and significant demeanours, he said, raising an eyebrow.  

My life isn't simple.  When I get a good stretch, something always gets in the way to agitate the waters. 

Had I not fallen downstairs, Dan could've continued to spank me quite happily, and I would probably been okay with our usual reminder sessions.  But now, it looks as if I am due for a real workout, and the snag is that I know it is going to feel twice, no, three times as bad as it should, due to such a long no-spanking interval, and the deep tissue bruising, of course. I am feeling nervous already, and I have a whole week to go yet.  I shall be a gibbering wreck by next weekend.  
I wonder if there is anything I can do to toughen up a bit? Is there any kind of a pre-spanking arnica I could use?  LOL.  Or maybe I should just run away and stay with a friend who lives abroad, for a bit?

Whilst I am delighted that Dan seems even better in both body and spirit than before his operation, I never anticipated that it would be my butt that suffered.

When the time comes, I know I shall get back up on that horse when instructed to do so


but never in my life have I been so glad that we don't have half the weapons of ass destruction that the rest of you seem to have. It'll be so good to get back to this. 



And this.



23 comments:

  1. You are welcome to stay with this friend abroad!
    I am just ecstatic about your Dan feeling so well! You will get back to the spanking 'form' in a short time. Don't rush because that may set you farther back in YOUR recovery!
    I agree that those slippers be banned unless you are sitting!!

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    1. Dan is better than I thought - shall we say "Normal service has been resumed"? LOL Only not very funny at the time and I think there may be more on the horizon as only about half the 'fizz' has been addressed. Sigh. I do feel lots better though, both physically and mentally.

      No more slippers! Ever!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  2. Glad things are back to normal at the Starsongs.

    My suggestion would be to wipe the slate clean as of today and then start fresh. After all, you should get points for being such a good wife through the move and his procedure. That way, it will be just like when you started out.

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    1. That would be a lovely plan, in theory. But whilst we do very little in the way of discipline as such, Dan is not exactly keen on caustic, flippant or sarcastic, hence a long, unforeseen 'discussion' the morning after I posted this. Sigh. Some hot sex afterwards though! LOL!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  3. Ami,
    So glad to see you posting. Spanking, stairs and all, welcome back!
    Meredith

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    1. Yep - spanking, stairs and all - I am back hopefully.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  4. I have just the thing for you, a new paddle. We had only been about two weeks before I finally just kicked the kids out and told them that if we didn't have some alone time, their father and I might go crazy. So I got my catch up yesterday. And hopefully on Tuesday.
    I hope your stair incident is just a once in a lifetime kind of thing. And that you were able to get back on the horse...... um I mean Dan

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    1. Well if I could figure out how to order one I would!!!! Think your idea and mine may differ though, as I am Ami the Wimp don't forget. A nice little pocket paddle will be fine - preferably one that won't split after the first ten splats. LOL!

      I am so glad you understand about this "fizz". It is impossible to stop and when it gains a hold, a good 'discussion' is the only thing that will cure it.

      I hope the stair incident is a once in a lifetime experience too! Fancy comparing poor Dan to a horse! Hmmmm...... perhaps stallion does spring to mind occasionally. LOL

      Hugs
      Ami

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  5. Oh Ami, you poor thing, come and stay with me for a bit, we would both be spank free then ;). I am sure it will be alright really but after a bit if a gap it is always a bit harder isn't it? For god's sake through the damn slippers in the bin in case you are tempted to get them out in a weak moment.
    lots of sympathy and love
    Jan.xx

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    1. So - would you call it a SPANK FREE ZONE then Jan? LOL

      It jolly well is harder after an interval. Good grief it is harder! In fact I wonder if it ever felt quite so hard.

      Yes ma'am - slippers in bin.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  6. Hey Ami...so happy that things are going well with Dan...woohoo...got a bit of dancing in did ya?!? Happy to hear that you are on the mend...told ya...you probably had deep bruising and it would take approximately 8 weeks to heal.

    I think Sunny has the right idea...clean slate as of today. However, if Dan really needs to get some swats in and/or you need to receive some swats, try using something more stingy and less thuddy.

    Of course, you are always welcome to come stay with me. Just let me know and I'll clean the boxes out of the spare room and get a bed in there for you. Oh and no stairs! :D

    Hope you continue to feel better.

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. And he thought he had deep bruising from his high intensity microwaves or whatever they were! Ha! Oh? Several weeks to go then?

      Not many things spring to mind as being less thuddy and more stingy, Cat. Except perhaps a feather stiffened with starch. Would that do?

      At this rate I will be "touring". LOL

      Thanks, Cat.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  7. Ami, great news that Dan is recovered so well. Extra good news to hear the possible side effect never arose, that is truly uplifting ;-).

    I agree with Sunny and Cat. Start fresh today because knowing you, by the time you are healed Dan will have plenty of new reasons to get you back on that horse....bareback of course!

    Hugs,
    George

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    1. Now George, my dear, please explain what exactly is 'uplifting'? LOL (Smug smile.)

      Unfortunately Dan decided he was't going to endure my snippiness a day longer. Hence long, uncomfortable discussion, and now problem sorted.

      Don't get me started on bareback riding. Do not go there.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  8. Oh Ami!!!

    So happy to hear how well Dan is doing now! I completely agree with him that catheters are horrid things!!!

    I am so sorry you fell and hurt yourself. You are a lucky girl that you didn't break something although I am sure you didn't feel lucky as you toppled down those stairs au natural! Poor Ami! I would hug you very gently if I could.

    Hoping you two can get back to all those things you would like to be doing and glad you are getting back to the spanking dynamic albeit carefully!

    love love love
    sara

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    1. I am truly thankful I didn't break anything. But still picking sisal out of my butt. LOL

      Spanking has been rekindled in the Starsong household. Whilst over his lap I don't know who talked the most - I still find it strange that discussions are so "simple" in that position. LOL

      Hugs
      Ami

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  9. CConsidering that the stairs themselves beat you black and blue and broke skin with wounds, Dans spanking to tell you to pay attention was redundant -- but of course, that probably wasn't the primary purpose! :-)

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    1. You are dead right about it not being the primary purpose - but I do emphasis that he was very careful and it was more 'reinforcement' than anything.

      However, the day after I wrote this I got spanked for real. Dan had enough of my "fizziness". So I am now feeling much better and in control. Thank you for your comment.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  10. Walking around naked but better keep those toes warm...bwahahaaa!

    I fell down the stairs years ago ( well I do it often but years ago it was bad) carrying 2 of our boys. Instantly I had a huge goose egg on my arm the size of a pear. It was awful and got worse as the swelling went down. The rest of my body wasn't so great either.
    Happy to hear your man is feeling better, and well you are too. Think of it this way, at least he wasn't physically able to spank some of the time you weren't able to accept it. So that time was a draw.
    As for coming abroad ...you won't want to come here yet. Still snow.

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    1. Now who, but you, would carry two boys at once down the stairs?! My goodness, woman! A goose egg the size of a pear - they are always the size of pears! LOL Sounds as if you could've cracked a bone.

      Yes my man is feeling better, but has now succumbed to hayfever and is sneezing his head off. It's a wonder you can't hear him in Canada.

      Still snow hey? hahahahahahahaha You should just see all the daisies in the grass, and the cowslips under the hedgerows. (Wish I could insert a smile here like Lucy gives to Linus or Charlie Brown when she is being smug.)

      Hugs
      Ami

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  11. Ami,

    Wonderful news about Dan but sorry to hear about you falling down the stairs. Why haven't you thrown those slippers away. I got spanked for wearing slippers that P told me not to wear after I fell over in the kitchen. So get rid of them.

    Happy to hear you are going to get back on the saddle:)

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. The slippers have been got rid of. Dan is even looking at my backless shoes and mules with an eyebrow raised. And yes, before you say anything, I got a spanking of the "eat pillows or squeal like a pig" variety the next morning after I wrote this. But as I said above, the sex was ultra hot afterwards. Thank the Lord!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  12. I am glad that Dan is feeling well and that you are recovering from your fall. I know you two will find your rhythm again. Hugs

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