The days are warming up, March is here, and Easter is only a few weeks away. What happens to time? It seems only a week or so ago it was Christmas?
March = Question Time here in Blogland.
I always do my best to comment on posts I read, and in turn to answer comments on my posts. Sometimes it is difficult to do this immediately as life gets in the way, but I remember how thrilled I was to get comments when I first started to post, and how avidly I looked to see whether anyone had answered my comments on their posts. It helped me to get to know the people, and many of them are now firm friends.
You can direct your questions to either me or Dan, and I will try to ensure his answers are sensible ones. Please be aware that we are a couple with a great sense of humour, but we will also be happy to offer an opinion or point of view, if you so wish.
I absolutely positively love your disclaimer statement. Wish I could meet you in person, you both sound like such a hoot. Okay question, do you ever think you'll get across the pond? You'll have places to stay as you hop scotch your way across the USA.
ReplyDeleteI am absolutely set upon meeting you one day, Leigh! You cannot imagine how often I tell Dan about you and your wonderful travelling adventures.
DeleteWe have always had "senses of humour". So important in life and marriage. Especially when times get tough. Dan is very good at pulling me out of a funk just by making a daft remark. He absolutely loves teasing women and tends to do it with a very naughty smile on his face so you can't get mad at him.
Golly, I haven't played hop scotch since I was a child, but how wonderful that would be! What a good idea!
Hugs
Ami
Hi Ami, :) I SECOND Sunny's comment!! C'mon over here, would ya??? LOL!
ReplyDeleteIf you can't journey across the pond, at least you can ponder a little... Here are some questions that I have come up with to ask around the land. For you both to answer, if you feel like it!
What memory from this past year makes you smile the most? (Could be spanking or not here.)
What's something new you recently learned about yourself?
What's the number one change you need to make in your life in the next twelve months?
And lastly- Do you think that you will become fond of your new implement that you recently posted about? Is it's use as... uncomfortable as... say... being SPATULATED???? LOLOL! There must be a verb that can be applied to that thing. Can you think of one? Many hugs,
<3 Katie
We will definitely meet up before too long, Katie! I feel it in my water. LOL!
DeleteAnswers to your questions:
I think the memory from this past year that makes me smile the most was when we first viewed our 'new house' and I stood in the lovely garden. I just couldn't believe it. But now I have to wait patiently until we sell our existing house, and with the problems we have with next door, your guess is as good as mine how long that will take.
Something new I recently learned about myself is that I apparently do many things with my left hand although I am right handed. I cannot write with my left hand, yet there are lots of things I use it for every day where my right hand becomes the 'second' hand. So strange.
Finally, no. I don't think I will ever become fond of our new implement. It looks pretty, and that is all. From the first splat to the last it is very painful. Not even 'just uncomfortable', but downright painful. It has been tried out several times now, and is no fun at all.
PS I always think of you when I am being spatulated. LOL!
Hugs
Ami
Ami hello,
ReplyDeleteWhat do you love about the Rose paddle?
What's the sweetest thing Dan has ever done for you (so far)?
If you had to choose between giving up spanking and sex for a month, which do you choose?
Do you have a favourite colour in knickers?
Love,
Ronnie
xx
Hi Ronnie!
DeleteI have come to realise that the Rose paddle is relatively soft and flexible compared with our other 'toys'. Leather has a nice feel to it. Everything else we have is wood, and wood is totally inflexible. The thinner the wood, the more it stings, and the thicker the wood, the more it bruises. You cannot win with wood. I do not, however, enjoy it when Dan uses the side with the rose on and tries to imprint it on my very soft rear. LOL! Naturally, he thinks it is hilarious.
Choosing between spanking and sex? That's not fair, because in our household one leads to the other 99% of the time regardless of the reason for the former. I would tentatively say sex, but then, if we gave up spanking lots of the excitement would go, and I might return to being an old harridan once again. So for us, I think the two will be forever entwined.
Ronnie, if you saw my knicker collection your hair would stand on end. It is scary. I don't know how it happened. I have some beautiful black satin and lace knickers, but then, I have some beautiful red satin and lace knickers, and then again, I have some beautiful petrol blue satin and lace knickers. Let's say that it is difficult to have a favourite colour.
Hugs
Ami
Loved your answers and thanks for answering mine. You sound like me with knickers. I can't stop buying them. I lean more to black now.
DeleteLove,
Ronnie
xx
I have to agree with Sunny as well!!!
ReplyDeleteIs there something in your past that you wish you could erase?
If given the opportunity, would you like to spank Dan for fun (good boy)? How hard would you hit?
What is 1 thing physically and personality that you love the most about Dan?
Dan - same question - no not about yourself! About Ami!!!! lol
:)
I think we all (if we are honest) have things we would like to erase from our pasts. In my case I would be much more careful when I had horses, as the bad accident I had has now led to a very real weakness in my left eye. Thank goodness for reading glasses.
DeleteNo, I don't think I would ever want to spank Dan, not really. Although I have threatened once or twice. He told me that there is only one person in this household who spanks, and it isn't me!
I love Dan's eyes. They are the colour of rich sherry and were one of the things that drew me to him when we first met. I also love his hands. He has long fingers - artist's hands. Personality-wise, I love his boyish sense of humour and his fortitude in the face of adversity. He is also a very kind man.
When I put that question to Dan he said without hesitation "Your nipples" causing me to giggle uncontrollably because I knew he would say that. He says the thing he likes best about my personality is that I never try to influence his decisions, or to force him to do anything against his will. Then he laughed like a drain and told me that I would have difficulty with that now he can spank me for it.
Hugs
Ami
How long do you think that spankings will continue in your marriage. Is this a lifetime commitment?
ReplyDeleteYes, I think spanking will continue as long as Dan is able to raise a hand, or an implement. They have become a part of our life in a way neither of us would ever have expected. He told me that he never foresaw the way "turning my arse red" would turn him on the way it does. And I openly admit to enjoying being spanked (most of the time anyway), although back at the start I thought it would all be about discipline and doing as I was told all the time. It has evolved into a sexy, loving interplay between two long married people. I just wish we had discovered it earlier, although not necessarily when we were young. It is now almost like a drug to us. It would be very hard indeed to do without it, and I am sure that as time goes on it will evolve even further.
DeleteHugs
Ami
When did you first realize you liked or wanted to be spanked? You have said you don't consider yourself submissive but instead cooperative. Is that still true?
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Clara
I hardly dare mention this any more, but the start was truly when I read 50 Shades. I had never, ever heard of adult women being spanked before that. For me, the only spanking was fairly harsh discipline as a child, and best left in my past. When I first started reading some blogs, I was terrified at what I was reading and sure that the women involved were being abused. It took a whilst to get my head round it all. I tried to think of all sorts of reasons against spanking, but each time I wondered, deep down, what it would be like. By the time I asked Dan to spank me, I was virtually hysterical about it. After that first spanking session, I went around all day with a red bottom and a grin on my face.
DeleteI still have trouble with the word "submissive". I am not the sort who would happily kneel naked with downcast face. My type of submission would be straddling her man, naked and hair disarranged, running a tongue around my upper lip and gazing into his eyes - and reading in them what his desires are. It's nothing new. I have always been that way, and thank goodness we are both growing old together and able to enjoy each other's fantasies and desires.
Hugs
Ami
Hey Ami...we are forecast for warmer weather here but I'm not holding my breath. LOL
ReplyDeleteI third Sunny's question and will add a possibly vanilla one...What four people (and their spouse/partner), living or dead, would you invite for an evening of drinks and dinner? What are Dan's choices...if he would care to answer.
Hugs and Blessings....
Cat
Hi Cat, trust you to pose a difficult question. It's difficult because there are so many interesting people to choose from.
DeleteMy answers would be: Richard III, Lewis Carroll, Florence Nightingale and my great, great, great grandfather (on my mother's father's side).
Dan's answers would be: Margaret Thatcher, Richard Branson, Anita Roddick (founder of the Body Shop) and Warren J Harding (his many times removed grandfather).
Sorry, I forgot,
DeleteHugs
Ami
If you won the lottery, what would you do with the money?
ReplyDeleteI also love Sunny's comment! True Dat!
My main enjoyment would come from gifting some of it to my children and family members, plus certain charities I support, as well as investing the remainder so that we had peace of mind in our old age.
DeleteI forgot the hugs again!
DeleteHugs
Ami
If you could change one thing in your life or about yourself, what would it be and why?
ReplyDeleteWhat is your favourite choice for a special meal?
If I could change one thing in my life, I would've studied much harder at school instead of focussing most of my attention on Dan. I should've gone to university much earlier in life. I should've liked to have studied archeology. Instead, my degrees are in art and reflective psychology.
DeleteI wish I could lose weight. But there seem to be a whole series of stresses in our lives at the moment, and unfortunately I am a comfort eater. There are very definitely certain parts of my body that I need to work on, but it becomes increasingly difficult as you get older. I also love to cook, which makes it even more difficult.
What we eat depends upon the time of year. Putting together a special meal could include any of the following: Starters: frosted salmon mousse, asparagus with hollandaise sauce, avocado with prawns, creme vichyssoise, coquilles St Jacques, French onion soup. Mains: roast rib of beef with Yorkshire puddings, steak Diane, apricot-stuffed loin of pork, whole ham cooked in cider and brushed with marmalade, roast leg of lamb spread with a juniper berry and mustard mixture, poacher's pie. Puddings: Pots de creme, coconut souffle, lemon meringue pie, chocolate torte, creme caramel, galatboureko, creme brulee.
I love having friends over for a meal, but these days we tend to invite people for Sunday lunch rather than an evening meal. We don't feel so energetic in the evenings and in summer, if the weather is good (which is a hazard of living in England), we love to eat outside on the patio.
Hugs
Ami
Hi Ami,
ReplyDeleteWhat is your favourite place of the places you and Dan have visited?
What place that you haven't visited would you like to visit?
What first attracted you to Dan?
Our most favourite place in the world is the Maldives. We have been lucky enough to have several holidays there, but now, due to certain celebrities (like the Beckhams) having discovered them, they are ludicrously expensive, and it is a real shame as when we first went there it really was "no news, no shoes" and even the little thatched cottages had sandy floors.
DeleteWe would love to visit New Zealand, Burma, the Cook Islands, the Iguassou Falls on the borders of Argentina and Brazil, and also the Panama Canal. I would like to travel around India, but Dan is not so keen, but he wants to visit Penang where his father was during the second world war.
He was very handsome, but his eyes were just amazing. He says he was first attracted to me because I was wearing a Mary Quant type dress with a large hole in the back! And it was very short!
Hugs
Ami
After you have been spanked, have you ever felt like you needed another one or it wasn't quite enough?
ReplyDeleteI will try to be as truthful as I can here.
DeleteWhen we first began, I even "bratted" a little in order to be spanked more often. I didn't know that was what it was called, at the time. I suppose I was trying Dan out to see if he would carry through. It seldom worked the way I wanted it to.
Eventually I just let go, lay back in the water and hoped to heck he would catch me before I drowned. It was very difficult to do as I was used to doing a certain amount of "orchestrating". Now I have learned that he will spank when he wants to, and there is nothing I can do to force his hand. He knows me so well after all these years that he is right 99% of the time. However, I have, and still occasionally do, hand him the paddle and tell him I need his loving care and attention as I am not doing very well. This doesn't mean he "whales away" at me. But we talk, and he is able to help me to release my stress/tension/antsi feelings before I lose control and let my "bitch/troll" personna take over.
Initially, there were times, yes there were, when a spanking didn't quite "hit the spot" as it were. But now, Dan knows, or seems to know, just how far to take a spanking. Sometimes it is a surprise and I almost start to panic as it feels harder and longer than I think I can cope with. But Dan always (ALWAYS) stops at the right time. He usually rubs my back and murmurs comfortingly to me whilst I recover, and then we move on to loving one another, which for us both, is very important. Even after discipline, which thankfully, does not occur very often.
Dan spanks quite fast, and often in the same spot before moving around, and he has a horrid habit of stretching my skin with one hand to make it sting more, so our spanking sessions are noisy and I know I have been spanked afterwards. But he has learned to flick his wrist in order to sting these days. When we first started he swung his arm, and I got very bruised. The whole thing is a big learning process.
If you are worried, I can tell you that we all sometimes have dreams about wanting more and harder. But usually when those times occur, we want the opposite. LOL! Spanking is a funny thing. During a spanking I often feel it is hard to bear, yet afterwards I feel so good I am high as a kite.
Hugs
Ami
If you could plan the perfect date night, what would it look like?
ReplyDeleteFavorite dessert?
Oh Jenelle, another excellent question.
DeleteI think it would have to be sitting out under the stars in a warm climate. It would probably be on or overlooking a beach or the seashore, with palm trees and bourganvillia and candlelight.
I love Dan in a dinner jacket, with the top button of his dress shirt undone and his black bowtie just looped around his neck. I love wearing long floaty dresses and dangly earrings. Maybe there might be soft music we could dance to (Dan is a wonderful dancer), or walk along a tropical beach with the waves swooshing gently in. Sigh.
My favourite dessert has chocolate in it, and I love souffles and creme brulee as well, but as I now have type 2 diabetes, I usually end up with fresh fruit these days.
Hugs
Ami
Hi Ami,
ReplyDeleteWhen you go over the pond to meet Sunny and Katie can I come? lol
Seriously, what springs into your mind if I ask what was the best day of your life? What is your greatest achievement?
Dan, bless your heart, what was your first thought when Ami asked you to spank her?
love Jan,xx
Sure thing, Jan!
DeleteThe best day of my life, without hesitation, was my wedding day. I still remember it from beginning to end, right from waking up and walking to the hairdressers and back, to giggling as Dan and I stopped at a car valet and frantically hoovered all the confetti out of our "hired" car on the way to the airport.
My greatest achievement, or should I say, our greatest achievement, has to be our two children. We are soooo proud of them both.
Dan says he thought I had at long last lost my marbles. When I burst into tears just before asking him, he thought I was going to leave him because I had fallen in love with someone else, and then he was so relieved that spanking me seemed a very small thing. He never reckoned on it having such a powerful impact on our lives. He is still mesmerised by it.
Hugs
Ami
What a lovely reply. Perfect. :)
DeleteOh Ami, he is so sweet :)
ReplyDeletelove Jan,xx
So, this past Sunday, Birch read to me from the Psalms. As she read over my favorite verse, "THE LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want," it made me think of domestic discipline and its obvious connection to love, care and protection. Love is patient. Love is kind. It doesn't envy, brag, or dishonor others. It is not selfish, it keeps no record of wrongs, it isn't ill tempered. It doesn't take pleasure in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It always PROTECTS, always PERSEVERES. This, my brothers and sisters, is at the root of what DD is all about. Love, humility, kindness, patience, perseverance and undespairing strength. Just as God loves us, so our guardians and disciplinarians cherish us. Just as THE LORD guides us to green pastures, so our spouses and disciplinarian friends guide us to safety and to better, richer, more godly lives. But, if you wish for THE LORD to take you under His wing, into His protection, you must trust Him. Place all of your faith in Him. Surrender to Him. Bow before THE LORD, and He will bless you all of the days of your life. Spurn Him, reject Him, and He will flip you off and go about His business. He will say, "Who are these people who pray to me, beseeching Me for My favors, but turn their backs upon My commandments and scorn to sing My praises? Give me servants who know how to treat Me, who accept and embrace My love." See, the thing about THE LORD is that you have to praise Him. Trust, surrender and praise - these are the keys to Gods love, as well as to receiving the love and cherishing of your HOH, man or woman. God craves praise. Man, who was created in His image, craves praise and respect. When man is spurned, he becomes jealous. Even THE LORD said, "I am a jealous God." Why, then, should man not be the same? Or do you think that man is stronger, better, morally superior to THE LORD? If so, pm me and well fight this out (lovingly and in a Christlike manner, of course) . But I digress. I mean come on now. THE LORD spread out the earth for us, adorned the heavens with stars, provided us with cattle for leather paddles andbeef stew, and you don't set aside an hour or two everyday just to praise His holy name at the top of your lungs? that's bound to make anyone feel unappreciated and not feel like doing anymore. You have to lift THE LORD up, make him feel like, well, a God. Boost his ego. In the same way, we must boost our HOH's egos, make them feel like men, or women. That's all for now, Christian brothes and sisters. Have a blessed night!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Anon. I know from experience that Dan certainly keeps a firm hold of me and doesn't let me stray far. Thank you for your comments.
ReplyDeleteHugs
Ami
Ami,
ReplyDeleteI am new to writing in blogland but, a long time lurker on your blog.
My question is: What is the one thing you have difficultly stopping yourself from doing, that leads to a punishment?
I am so glad you stopped by to comment. A very big welcome to you.
DeleteWe don't have punishments as such, but every now and again I cross the line when it comes to "attitude". In other words, my mouth runs away with me.
I realise what I am doing, and that I am letting my "bitch/troll" take over, but I cannot seem to stop myself.
Sometimes it happens when there has been a long time between spankings. Sometimes I just get up on the wrong side of the bed. Whichever reason - I end up across Dan's lap wishing I hadn't disappointed him by acting like that. As for Dan, it is usually at this point that either the bathbrush or a similar wooden implement is brought into play. I feel contrite very quickly.
Dan has learnt how to spank me without using much force. He "swats" rather than swings. This means it can go on for much longer and never give me any bruises. But it HURTS! He also has a habit of swatting on the same spot over and over again, and of holding the skin taut before he spanks.
I think that because Dan is very patient and tolerant, it makes me feel very guilty, and I often start to cry before he has hardly touched me. He isn't one for holding long conversations during a spanking, but will usually discuss it before he begins to spank, and then afterwards.
Dan is not keen on me interrupting him when he is telling me something either. I used to interrupt a lot, but I am much better now. I would only interrupt because I assumed (usually wrongly) what he was going to say. Now I try to listen first, and wait until my opinion is sought. After all, he always listens to what I have to say without interrupting, so it is only fair.
Please feel free to email me with any queries. I have doubtless come across most problems and hiccups by now.
Hugs
Ami
Hi Ami,
ReplyDeleteI loved reading your answers. Your posts are always such joy to read. I would love if you came to visit the United States, and Jan too! What fun it would be. I could show you my one little orchid. :-) No questions - I just enjoy hearing about you and your life. :-) Sending hugs your way!