Tuesday, 26 November 2013

A Little Intermission - Just to Say It's One Year On!


Note the pink collar!  Note the look in Dan's eye! Could it mean a spanking?!  You may be right!




This time last year I received my first spanking.  It was also my first ever Birthday Spanking. It was the beginning of our journey.  I hadn't even had the courage to start a blog - that came  a bit later.  

After all, it had taken me the best part of a couple of weeks to decide that it was now or never.  I'm so glad I decided it was now.  Mind you, I seem to remember hiding under Dan's armpit and suddenly bursting into tears.  He asked me in horror what was wrong, thinking I had decided to leave him, was having an affair etc.  I think he was so relieved when I sobbed out that I wanted him to spank me, that he was willing to do whatever I wanted.  At the time, anyway.

I had blithely assumed that I would become, overnight, a submissive wife; that Dan would reward disobedience, disrespect, dishonesty and dangerous actions with swift bottom-busting spanks and that they would serve as a great deterrent and all in the garden would be lovely - for ever afterwards.

Ha!

I had thought that our road to discovery would look something like this




When in fact, for a great deal of the time, especially over the next few months, it looked like this



and even like this



A bit like wading through the slough of despond!

Happily, we are now out the other side, and whilst there is the occasional obstacle to be overcome



we seem to be able to help each other over it.  So the road ahead now looks something like this



and most of the time the journey is all we had hoped it would be.

Dd/TTWD is a funny thing.  It starts off being one thing, and ends up being something completely different. My advice to anyone just starting would be to put away any preconceptions you have, and to go into this completely open-minded. You may be in for a surprise.  I know we were.

I don't think we have had so many disagreements in the whole of our marriage as we had this last year.



Dan learned quite early on how to use the look.  I did, and still do, tend to have more attitude than is good for me, and frequently ignore it!



But I am trying.  Very trying, as Dan would say!

At some point during the year I finally had to admit to being a spanko.  I couldn't see all my friends nudging each other and shaking their heads.  They all knew I had to find that one out for myself.  

It was a strange conclusion to come to, because as I was saying to one of them recently, Why is it that we love being spanked, but we hate a really intense session - the actual spanks themselves?! They hurt like hell and we wonder why on earth we agreed to it in the first place. Yet the anticipation, if there is a time lag before the spanking can take place, and then the feeling afterwards (red and/or bruised/striped bottoms, soreness, heat, sting, discomfort sitting, plus the mind-blowing surge of endorphins), is the best thing ever!  And the sex! Wow!  

I know that this applies to me, even when the spanking turns out to be of the disciplinary type. I can count on one hand the few occasions when this has proved not to be the case.  In fact, if for any reason a spanking is delayed - I am like a well-shaken bottle of lemonade! As Dan knows to his cost.  And as my bottom knows to its cost as well! Yet those endorphins still surge!

This year I have made more genuine friends, who I email with, speak with on the telephone, and have even met up with, than I would ever have believed could be possible.  My throat gets all chokey at the thought.  So while I am about it

A GREAT BIG THANK YOU TO YOU ALL!!!! ESPECIALLY FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT, POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS FOR DAN!!!!

Little did I realise when Dan suggested I read Fifty Shades of Grey (Bless him, he had no idea whatsoever what it was about!) just how much our lives were going to be changed.  I will always have a soft spot for those books, and also for their author, despite her bad press!

I have no wish to tell you how many spanks Dan will be giving me tomorrow morning!  Let's just say it will be a significant number.  

But they will be given as an affirmation of his desire to love and cherish me, always. (Love you too, sweetheart!)

And the picture I will leave you with is not of walking off into the sunset.  But of walking into the sunrise.



  Hugs to you all, my dear friends! 









46 comments:

  1. Wonderful, uplifting post Ami. Wishing you all the best tomorrow and all the tomorrows thereafter.

    Laughed at Dan's comment about trying. Ray uses that same one.

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    1. Thank you so much, Sunny! "All the tomorrows thereafter" is very important! Lovely sunny autumn day here, and lunch with Dan to look forwards to, just hate the number of candles though! LOL!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  2. Congratulations Ami on coming so far. I like the Bunyan reference too! 'Slough of Despond and DD' - sounds like a good title for a post or even a book :)

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    1. Thank you so much Foothills! The Slough of Despond has become a familiar place this last year, and will probably continue to do so for some time. Still, no hills, no valleys!

      Maybe you could write one? We'd all read it!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  3. happy Tomorrow, and happy birthday, and happy many many more spanko years ahead!

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    1. Thank you my dear! That is a really great birthday wish!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  4. You know reading the part about the more arguments in this past year than any other time in your marriage reminded me of a comment you once made on my blog. Something along the lines of " you seem so sad Willie, why do this if you didn't have arguments like this before ttwd"...LOL~! Well now you know!

    I hope you have a wonderful birthday, if that is why you are getting spanked. We are heading to a cabin tomorrow for some alone time without kids!!! My husband, dear man that he is, has already informed me I will be getting spanked there tonight. Oh well at least it is in a different province!!!

    I am sooooooooooooooo happy you decided to blog, and stay...and that you have walked through that valley of darkness and didn't succumb to it! It isn't easy, but it is worth it!
    Much, Much love,
    willie

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    1. Re your first paragraph - don't forget I am a couple of months behind you! At least maybe I can look forward to a smoother road ahead? LOL! And yes, I do know now!

      So many spanks Willie! But I hasten to add, of the variety that burn so beautifully all you want to do is fan the flames! That's the very best type of a spanking, I think!

      I hope you are alone in that cabin. There is no way on this earth I could contemplate being spanked in anyone else's vicinity. LOL! (Wink!)

      I still think there will be some rocky road ahead. I threw my rose-tinted specs away long ago. But I think we are out of the dark pines at long last. More open countryside at last. It's just the tendency to stray on to parallel routes that is still a problem.

      Thank you for all your kind wishes, and have a wonderful time!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  5. Happy Birthday! You are on a journey....a very rewarding one, but not always an easy one.
    hugs abby

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    1. Thank you Abby! You are so right! Definitely not easy in our household! But I agree with the "rewarding" bit!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  6. A truly lovely post Ami, and one to which many of us can relate I am sure. It is a difficult path at times....and then you see the sunrise!

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    1. Thank you Janey! I certainly hope lots of you can relate to this in some way. The sunrise is just beautiful though, and then there is the whole day to look forwards to!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  7. Lovely lovely lovely!!! What a beautiful post! Happiest of birthdays! May your spanking lead to some fantastic hot birthday sex.

    love sara :)

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    1. Thank you very much Sara! I can confirm your last sentence (ahem!) and that ALL spanking should lead to hot sex in my way of thinking!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  8. Ami, what a delightful post, and happy birthday! I hope you enjoy your cake, your presents, and of course your Birthday Spanking!

    Hugs,
    George

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    1. Ah, thanks, George! I can confirm that cake, presents and birthday spanking have all been very much enjoyed!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  9. Such a lovely post Ami! So happy you decided to create your blog...you are an awesome addition to our community!

    Wishing you an awesome birthday with many more to come! Ya think Dan will stop the number of spanks at your age? *snicker*

    Sending lots of prayers, healing energy and positive thoughts for complete good health for both of you!

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Thank you, Cat! I have never been referred to as an "awesome addition" before! Golly, you will give me a big head!

      (I think we lost count of the spanks after the first fifty!) (Snigger!)

      Thank you, my dear friend, for all of your good wishes and prayers!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  10. Happy birthday!!!
    Great post. You're spot on!! :)
    Hugs,
    Elle

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    1. Thank you, Elle! You are very kind!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  11. Happy Birthday, Ami!!! This was a wonderful post. I loved the photos. I'm hopeful that I will one day develop the kind of friendships here that you have :)

    ((Hugs))

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    1. Thank you very much! I am absolutely positive you will make a lot of friends around here! We are a very friendly lot!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  12. So happy you are here Ami!! I hope for many years to come. The imagery is perfect...I was walking with you saying ahhhh--- I see what she means!
    Hope the spanks are just what you need/want!

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    1. Thank you so much, Minelle! Those spanks were very, very good! Happily no wood used today! LOL!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  13. Hey Ami, what a lovely post and I love the pics! Happy Birthday! and congratulations on your first year. I love the imagery and your advice is spot on! I'm so glad you plucked up the courage to blog. This place wouldn't be the same without you :)

    Have a wonderful birthday. I hope Dan spoils you rotten ... after your birthday spanking that is :)

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Thank you so much, Roz! The year seems to have flown past! I am glad I had the courage to blog too! My birthday spanking was wonderful and very warming! Dan is very good at spoiling me rotten, and he took me out for a great lunch and some shopping!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  14. You're pretty dear and special yourself, my friend. I'm so very glad to have "met" you here on the blogs and have gotten to know you better. Hugs back!

    Oh! I bet Dan loses count a few times during your birthday spanking. I won't bother suggesting you invest in one of those handheld clicker-counting contraptions! ;-)

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    1. Thank you very much, Sweetie! I just wish I had more time to spend on everyone's blogs. We both lost count somewhere around the fifty mark - I then started to count backwards! Don't even mention a "clicker" LOL! LOL! Shall now giggle uncontrollably next time I am spanked, and it will all be your fault! Shall have to send Cat or Ana after you with a "Blondie special"!!!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  15. Happy one year Ami! Im glad yo are finding your way ;)

    Callie

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  16. Happy Spankoversary, Ami!
    And Happy Birthday!

    Your journey sounds so much like mine!
    I loved how you described it.

    Thanks for sharing!!

    Happy spankings!

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    1. Hi Katherine!

      Thank you so much for your kind wishes! I am very glad we share a similar path! Makes me feel so much better!

      Spankings are indeed very happy!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  17. A happy post. Wishing you a very happy birthday and all your days filled with joy. :-) I love the pictures. Sending many blessings. Hugs, Terpsichore :-)

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    1. Thank you so much, Terps! especially for all your blessings and hugs!

      Hugs back
      Ami

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  18. Hi Ami, happy birthday to you, I hope you have a lovely spanky birthday, just like mine last week. Amongst my pressies was a posh leather paddle from the London tanners co and a couple of pieces of jewellery. a bracelet with spank me in morse code beads all along it and a silver necklace that has a tiny ruler charm and a round disk that says spank me!. I wear them all the time, I think I must be on the verge of coming out!!.lots and lots of love
    Jan,xx

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    1. I didn't know yours was last week! Did you say?! Many, many happy returns of the day! Did you get the bumps?! LOL!

      Your pressies sound wonderful! John is very good at present-buying! My, my, the London Tanners! That's pushing the boat out!

      I am glad you had a great birthday, and I so hope you are feeling better these days! We must meet up before Christmas!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  19. What a great post! This speaks to so many of us. The wanting, the expecting, the misunderstandings, the reconnecting, we all understand. I hope you got a great spanking and many to grow on on top of that. I'm really glad you're here now.

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    1. PK - you always say the nicest things! Thank you, my friend! The spanking was one of the lovely, warm, mouth-watering variety! Couldn't count the spanks any more though! Too many! LOL! I am glad I am here now, too!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  20. Happy Birthday - Happy Spankings and a lovely illustrated post. For some reason blogger ate your post and hid it from me. Hope you had a good day.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Thank you DelFonte. I, too, am having Blogger problems at the moment and try as I will it refuses to let me add all my blogs I follow so they appear on the right, but I have a long list on my dashboard. Very strange. Oh well, I'll keep trying.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  21. Wishing you the happiest of birthdays, Ami!!!! :) I left you a cake over at my place! Enjoy! :)

    Loved this post and am also so glad that you and Dan are in such a good place, as you look back on the trials and tribulations of the past year! Many congrats! It's quite a journey, isn't it?? Many hugs and so glad that you are a part of this special land!

    <3 Katie



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    1. You cake is awesome! Loved it!

      Well, life certainly isn't dull. Just a bit hard to cope with every now and again! Thanks for your hugs and best wishes!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  22. Happy birthday, Ami! So sorry I missed it. :( I will have to think of something special for you to make up for it. :D

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    1. 'S okay! No worries! I should think you are exhausted sorting all those elves out! And thank you!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  23. A truly lovely post.

    Happy belated birthday. Hope you had a wonderful day.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Thanks Ronnie. The day was very good. Just wish these wretched years didn't keep adding up. It would've been nice to stop at around 35 or so. Oh well.

      Hugs
      Ami

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