Tuesday 21 July 2015

Words

There are words and then there are words.

For the past few days, Dan and I have had words. Or rather, I have been the one having the words and Dan has mostly remained silent and pondered them.

For those who live the DD/TTWD dynamic, this can be a very dangerous way of life. After all, don't we all scream at each other that communication is key to a good relationship. Well, "Ha!" is all I can say.

When this little old Alpha gets going, she most certainly gets going. And so does Dan, but he is the one holding the paddle.



Let us just go back a few days shall we?

Remember where I talked about snapping back occasionally and having to reconcile that with the fact that you might end up with a red, sore bottom?


I think there is a saying that mentions chickens coming home to roost.


For those of you who are interested in embarking on a spanking way of life, those who just like to read and imagine, and even for those of you who live this strange and kinky phenomenon, let me remind you that there are certain words and phrases that should never, ever, be uttered out loud during a pouty episode that incurs a spanking penalty, the lead up to the spanking itself, and most definitely not while the aforesaid spanking is taking place.

Some of these words are:

"I'm so tired of you watching tennis and golf all the time." 

"I'm bored and fed up with being neglected."

"All you do is issue your orders."

"You can do it yourself."

"Next time you leave your socks on the floor for me to pick up, I will not be held responsible for my actions." 

"So what are you going to do about it?!"

"You can stick that in your pipe and smoke it."

"You and who else?"

"I can't be bothered."

"I'm not in the mood."

"You just don't get it, do you?"

"I'm fine, thanks."

"Leave me alone."

"Huh!"

"You can get you own bloody implement!"

"No, I won't...!"

"Why the fuck do you keep hitting the same spot!"

"Let me up!"

"Okay, that's enough now!"

"Noooooo......!"

Spread over several days you can imagine the timbre of the atmosphere in our household.

This morning Dan could stand it no longer. He took action, which involved my rear end getting a major roasting. I wasn't even over his lap at the time. I was merely lying in bed minding my own business and contemplating the next story in a series in a new book called "Confessions of a Spanking Author" (Great book! Now why wasn't I approached?!), when all of a sudden I was rudely rolled over and paddled like there was no tomorrow.


I seem to remember something about being instructed to go and get an implement, and my reply being one of the above snarky comments. But the resultant stamping across the bedroom, the slamming of the drawers, closely followed by Dan's shocking assault upon my lily-white bottom with a rapid and remorseless ascent and descent of a large hard implement, soon snapped me out of my pleasant reverie.

There was no warm up, and each time I thought I could breathe, albeit in gasps of hurt astonishment, the spanks not only started up again but came with renewed intensity.

Being flat out is a distinct disadvantage. Each time I tried to creep towards the edge of the bed on the pretext of throwing myself over and escaping, I was hauled back by a leg, and pinned back down.


He may not be spontaneous, but he knows exactly how he needs to spank in order for me to regain my happy, smiling, submissive self. 

It was a bit like climbing a steep hill. The nearer you get to the top the harder the going gets. I was aware of Dan pulling my skin tight to extract every bit of ouchiness he could; instead of gently rubbing and soothing my hot flesh in between bouts of spanks, he kneaded it like bread dough; 



he kept spanking on the same spot over and over - just where I sit!

I ended up in a dishevelled, hot, flustered, weeping mess. But once again, it was one of those moments when I would have unzipped his skin and climbed in with him if I could have. An extraordinary sense of calm and togetherness. A very happy place. Resolution.



So now I am sitting here, having a writing day. But you would laugh out loud if you saw me. I have placed a cushion, from the kitchen bench, on my typing seat to soften it. I am wearing a long, flowing summer skirt of a very soft material. And I am most definitely NOT wearing any knickers, and nor do I intend to for a very long time. If ever, in fact.

As I said at the beginning, there are words and then there are words


27 comments:

  1. Oh my - I've said many of those things. But rarely with the same results. I'm glad you are back to the place in your mind where you should be, I'm glad you're having a writing day and I'm glad for the cushion!

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    1. The writing day went to pot as other things, affectionately known as grandchildren, made an unexpected appearance. LOL.

      These words were not all said at once, nor were they all said as I was using some of them as examples. But you may be interested to know that I still have some interesting crescents on my backside. The man who made that Rose paddle certainly knew what he was doing! My motto is "Keep cushions handy everywhere."

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  2. Oops, I sometimes feel very sorry form Dan, just saying.....
    Hope your rear end recovers soon and you get a lot of writing done
    love Jan,xx

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    1. No, don't feel sorry for Dan. We are in a very happy place and sometimes a hard spanking is the only way to get there - for both of us. Most of these words are just examples of what not so say. Mind you, I am not saying that I don't THINK them from time to time. LOL.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  3. You used ALL of those phrases? No wonder you're sitting on a sore bottom. I hope you get lots of writing done; we're all looking forward to that sequel.

    Rosie xx

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    1. Oh, Rosie. No, no, no. I can see I have given everyone the completely wrong impression. I used maybe one or two of them. Some I can never remember using, not ever. But I do have occasion to THINK them from time to time. "I'm fine, thanks" and "Let me up" have been used several times, and also "Huh!".

      The important thing to remember is that using any of the phrases in my post incur consequences. They all come under the TRUST and RESPECT rule. But the other thing to remember is that none of us are perfect, and we must behave 'naturally' and not put on an act for the sake of DD/TTWD. If we put on an act we are controlling the actions of the HOH as well. After all, if we were perfect, then we wouldn't need spanking. Now what a shame that would be! LOL!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  4. LOL. I've said many of those things and had to sit on a cushion after. I hope you had a good day writing.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Well, Ronnie, I knew I could rely upon someone else around here as well as PK to have said some of these words.

      There are times when I think I am a "brat with intent". LOL. And as I sit here with a big smile on my face, I am very glad I am.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  5. Well I guess this gives an all new meaning to the words "rump roast"
    Sounds like you got it really bad, Ami. Hurtfull things must have been said.
    But I know how things can get out of control at times
    Hopefully your dresses are long enough to be comfortabel going without knickers.

    Take care

    Ray

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    1. Definitely 'rump roast'. LOL.

      Analysing this afterwards, I can see how all this escalated. But only one or three of these phrases were actually used over several days. However, it is important to recognise that these are all good examples of "snarkiness" and that can mean only one outcome.

      I really quite enjoyed being knickerless for a day. Very liberating. And necessary. LOL

      Things are now back to normal in the Starsong household and we are both very much better for the spanking. We both needed it.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  6. Ok.... Parallel mood lady.... Lol! I've certainly spoken to my Scotsman like that. Usually I'm quickly over his knee! Not for as much as you've taken though!
    Remember you used to say things regarding my fortitude with spanking.....? I'd say without a doubt in my mind your butt is granite! You have surpassed me... Teacher! Lol!

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    1. Hahahahaha! Well, you know Dan, he takes a day or two to think, analyse and then act. Trouble is that by the time he acts, he has made his mind up to spank for England. LOL. I am now sitting comfortably again, but it has taken a while. I still have some crescents, but they are now fading.

      Why don't you get one of those Rose paddles, Minelle? Then you could really empathise......

      Hugs
      Ami

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  7. And...there are spankings,,,,and there are SPANKINGS.....you had the latter...and sometimes that is what is needed. Glad you are writing...and have a cushion.
    hugs abby

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    1. Oh Abby, you are so right! I was a real brat. A brat and a half. I knew just what we were building up to and how this would end. But I went ahead anyway. And you know what? It was therapeutic for both of us. It was like floating on a cloud for at least two days afterwards. Even now I am smiling from ear to ear.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  8. ROFL Ami...I have used many of those words/phrases in the past but never got very many out of my mouth before my tushie paid the price. Happy you are feeling better...at least emotionally. ;)

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. I only said one or two over a few days. My attitude said the rest for me. I can be the brattiest brat you have ever come across if necessary.

      I hate spankings like these when that implement is going up and down, but afterwards there is such a feeling of relief and lightness. Spankings like these make us both feel good!

      Hugs
      Ami

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  9. Ami,
    What were you thinking? Those are all fighting words. I hope things have settled down now. I will email soon.
    Meredith

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    1. They are most certainly 'fighting words' and I recommend no-one use them unless they know what they are doing. But I only used a few of them over several days. Still had the same effect. LOL. Strangely enough, the phrase Dan hates the most is "I'm fine, thanks." when he knows I am absolutely NOT fine.

      Things are back to normal here now, and we are both smiling again.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  10. Ami oh. my. goodness. those are not good phrases to issue. Ouch! definitely wasn't a fun spanking. Glad you have a cushion to sit on and hope you get plenty of writing done. Looking forward to your next book.
    Lindy x

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    1. Hello Lindy! Thank you so much for stopping by to comment.

      You came in where I actually got a good, hard spanking for a change. Which very thankfully, is not more than once in a blue moon. Well, the moon was blue this time. LOL.

      I must say to you, that I didn't use all these words. Most of them are examples of what NOT to say. But I did THINK several of them, and I probably used at least three of the phrases over a couple of days. But I do admit to being very bratty and snarky. So Dan knew exactly how to handle the situation.

      Things are once more peaceful and harmonious and the sparkle is back in full. The spanking not only reset me, it also reset Dan. It's amazing how much stress relief a man can get from spanking his wife! LOL.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  11. Is this the same Dan I used to read about? The one that was so reluctant and so nervous that he might be too harsh? Sounds to me like a "Born Again HOH"
    Time to zip your lip, Ami, but I am glad that it got you working on that next book.

    Hugs to you,
    Ella

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    1. Oh, I know. I have thought and thought about this over time. Yet to be honest with you, the only reason I got some marks was due to the hard stitching around the hard edge of our paddle. Unlike wood, it flexes and the edge comes down harder than the middle. This spanking was pretty hard, but it did the job it was meant to do. It reset us both. Harmony and peace has been restored to the Starsong Household, and the smiles and closeness are back, with no recriminations. The beauty of a good spanking is that you are then able to move on. I am smiling as I write this, and wish we had known more about the dynamic years and years ago. It is so good for us.

      Dan is HOHy in a strange way. It's like he notices things, considers how best to deal with the situation, and then spanks. He surprises me every single time. There is no boredom when Dan has his spanking hat on. LOL.

      Hugs
      Ami

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  12. I had to laugh so much about your picture of bread dough. Yes that is about the subtlety I can relate to... What a wonderful post, and how wondrous life can be sitting on a cushion having fun.

    A big hug to you, Ami,
    Han

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    1. I don't mind nice, sexy strokes, but being kneaded like bread dough is not my idea of a good time. LOL.

      These words and phrases are mostly examples. But I do admit to having used some of them, and thought even more of them. And I do admit to being a brat and knowing that it was going to end in a spanking. It was one of those games where you keep pushing and just cannot stop despite knowing the price you will have to pay.

      I did not enjoy the actual spanking part, but the feeling afterwards was euphoric. We both felt better for it, and I am still smiling when I think about it.

      Returning the big hug, Han!

      Ami

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  13. Hi Ami, I'm sorry I am late in commenting.

    Oh ouch! That sounded like some spanking. I'm glad you ended up feeling calm and connected to Dan. It's a wonderful feeling isn't it? non-spanko friends would think us nuts lol. Glad you had a cushion too and hope you got lots of writing done :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz!

      I am positive everyone thinks I am nuts. How can a person "enjoy" being spanked hard? But of course, it is so much more complicated than that, isn't it? That feeling of being higher than the clouds after you've been spanked. That feeling of being so loved and protected and cared for by your man. There is nothing to compare with it.

      Lots of cushions in this household! LOL

      Hugs
      Ami

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  14. .I'm even later - I can read your blog on tablet for some reason, the background overlays the text. Anyway, I'm back on my laptop.
    I've used all those phrases... in my head at least.
    That was some spanking and I'm glad you still wanted to unzip him at the end.
    hugs
    DF

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