Wednesday 12 March 2014

An Update on Dan


First of all I want to say a great big thank you to all my friends who have emailed me recently.  Your support makes me teary and you have no idea how it helps to hear from you.

I think I am doing most of the worrying on Dan's behalf as the date of his operation draws nigh.

He went to the London hospital and had all his pre-assessments last Friday.  The usual things - bloods, ECG, blood pressure and cholesterol etc.  

The operation/procedure will take place at 7.30am on 22nd March.  The hospital are putting us up in a hotel overnight, which is a good thing.

He is having the High Frequency Ultrasound we had hoped he would be able to have, which is some sort of a relief, as apparently it has the least side effects of all the prostate cancer treatments.  He will be kept in hospital for 24 hours and has to have a catheter for around ten days as he will be very swollen and have difficulties otherwise.  

The operation is done through the perineum.  They are operating on the right side only.  The cancer is "intermediate".  They are leaving the left side alone as the cancer there is only approx 2mm, but they will monitor it twice a year.

The benefits of the HiFu treatment are that if it isn't completely successful the first time it can be repeated twice more, and he could also have any traditional treatment or operation - so more options. But I pray that this will obliterate the cancer completely.  I desperately want my husband back to normal and cancer free.

I am being a miserably old morose grumpy bear at the moment, for which I am sorry.  I'm finding it difficult to drag my spirits any higher than my kneecaps.  But I have, for the first time in ages spent a half hour reading blogs and I am determined to try to shake myself and get back my sense of humour.  It's just that I wish it were me not Dan having to go through all of this.

All prayers will be very gratefully received, and I will, of course, keep you all in the loop when Dan has his op.

One more thing you could do here to help me take my mind off the worry wagon is to ask me any questions you may like to ask.  I am well aware I am late to this event, and that I haven't done much "asking" myself, but it would be good if anyone had anything to ask me, no matter how silly, and would cheer me up even more.

Hugs!

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  1. Hey Ami...so happy to hear the update on Dan. Sounds like everything is actually going well. I know you wish it was you...same thing if your kids or grands are sick...you wish it was you. But it's not...so you need to take care of you so that you can take care of Dan after his procedure.

    Okay, here's some questions for you...have you gotten all unpacked and sorted out? Is your internet connection any better now? Is there anything I can do for you?

    You, Dan and the rest of your family stay in my prayers daily.

    Sending lots of prayers, healing energy and positive thoughts!

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. All unpacked and sorted out? Ha! A couple of bedrooms, the lounge and the dining room. The kitchen is sort of tidy, but with men stamping in and out in their great dirty boots... Ha!

      Our internet connection is up and running and as usual Dan's computer works pretty quick whilst mine rivals slugs and tortoises. I put it down to its age and I know what it feels like!

      The only thing you can do for me is continue to keep in touch and be my friend. That is the very best thing!

      Thank you for your prayers and blessings and healing energy and positive thoughts. Really need them over here!

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  2. Oh...i am sending lots of prayers and healing thoughts....thanks for the update.
    ....You won a prize....a trip, all expenses paid to any place you want....where do you choose and why?
    .....What is your favorite comfort food?
    hugs abby

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    1. Thank you, Abby for your prayers and healing thoughts.

      If I had a choice like that I would like to visit South America again. We were lucky enough to visit Salvador in Brazil several years ago, and it is a wonderful continent. I have always wanted to view the Iguacu Falls at the bottom of Brazil since seeing them over the years in travel documentaries. Waterfalls fascinate me, and if I wanted to be greedy I would like to see the Zambezi Falls and the Angel Falls as well.

      My favourite comfort food? In winter it has to be Shepherds' Pie, but made with beef mince not lamb. Truthfully it is called Cottage Pie, but being Brits we call it by the same name, just to confuse all foreigners. LOL! I make my own version which contains a liberal dose of homemade blackberry wine, and lots of grated cheese on the top. Lush!

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  3. Hi Ami, about time you put in an appearance round here. We have missed you, no questions just prayers for Dan
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Thank you so much Jan. I feel enormously cheered and am glad I decided to climb out of my self-made slough of despond. When I am cheerful Dan is more cheerful too, so I will lift my chin, paint my finger nails scarlet and be more positive.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  4. Ami,

    I've been thinking about you. Thank you for the update. Sending love, hugs, and positive thoughts to you both.

    Questions - Who would you want to play the role of you in a movie?
    What was the first thing you noticed about Dan.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Thank you very much for all your love, hugs and positive thoughts, Ronnie. It all helps.

      As I still get taken for Meryl Streep, although really we are not that much alike and I am certain she is much slimmer than me these days, it would have to be her. I do enjoy her films. Not sure what she'd make of my life though.

      Actually it was Dan first noticed me. I was sixteen and dancing at a school dance wearing a very short Mary Quant dress with a hole cut in the back of it, and he told his friends that he was determined to dance with me. We've been together (mostly apart from the college years) ever since. I did notice his very dark brown eyes and hair, and thought he was far too good looking to want to dance with me. I'm just very glad he did!

      Many hugs
      Ami

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    2. You get taken for Meryl Streep, fantastic, I do enjoy her films. Mary Quant dress, showing your age but I had a couple of her things as well:)

      Love,
      Ronnie
      xx

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  5. Hi Ami,
    I have been thinking of you. Thank-you for giving an update on Dan. I will be sending healing energy and positive thoughts.

    I am not good at asking questions...but I do wish to distract you from worrying so...
    Are there any fantasies that you have that you would like to experience in real life? Have you talked to Dan about them?

    Hugs :-)

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    1. Thanks Terps for your healing energy and positive thoughts.

      I think we have lived out a good few of our private fantasies over the years, spookily enough. LOL! Even had sex on the beach once, in our early twenties, but not a very comfortable experience and we managed to end up at the bottom of the dune we had started off on top of! LOL! Dan has never been terribly romantic - in the hearts and flowers and candles sort of way. He remembers all the important dates like birthdays, anniversaries and Valentine's Day, but in other ways he is very "English" and I am the hot blooded one.

      I think I would love to spend the night with him somewhere in Africa in one of those luxurious tents that fold back to disclose a four-poster with filmy curtains blowing in the breeze and millions of stars sparkling overhead and the scent of exotic flowers. I've seen them in travel brochures. Such a trip would be way beyond what we could afford so it's great to fantasise about it.

      I love swimming naked - but it has to be very warm, and totally private. I'm not much of an exhibitionist about such things, although I emptied an old cardboard box during our recent move, and some photos fell out, and there was one Dan had taken of me doing a spot of nude sunbathing whilst on holiday years ago. He must have done it completely without my knowledge, the so and so! And he still won't let me throw it away! So it's gone back in the box - at the very bottom!

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  6. Hi Ami, :). It's wonderful to hear from you. Hope that things are settling down post move. Don't you worry one bit about us here. When you can pop on, great. :)

    I'm so sorry that you all are going through this. It sounds like your Dan is in a good place as he prepares to move forward with his treatment. I will be praying that all cancer is cleared and that Dan gets through the treatment swiftly and as comfortably as he can. I'm thinking that he is in the best of hands with you at his side. I agree with Cat. Take care of you so that you can take good care of Dan. :). If you need a nice listening ear, you know where to find me. Not an easy time, I know.

    Questions... Hmm... Have you ever asked Dan how he knows when he has spanked you enough? Do you do anything that annoys Dan that you just cannot seem to stop easily? What is your all time favorite drink of the alcoholic persuasion? :D

    That's it for now Ami. I am thinking of you both. You let me know if I can do anything for you. Many hugs to you,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Thank you, Katie. I shall probably be ringing up everyone when I am nervously waiting whilst Dan has his procedure.

      How does Dan know when he has spanked me enough? Simple answer - he doesn't. It is most annoying, but even after all this time he still asks me if I want him to stop, and is quite aghast when I sometimes request that he keep going. I tell him and tell him that I will survive, but he continues to get nervous - possibly because I sometimes sound as if I am being murdered. LOL! I am not a quiet person at such times!

      I annoy Dan when I interrupt him when he is talking, especially if he is giving me instructions about something. I also annoy him if I turn off and stop listening, and hence, miss something important. I am learning to keep my mouth shut and to listen, but it doesn't come easily. I was the one in charge for far too long. At least he has perfected the "lifted eyebrow" and so it is up to me whether or not to heed that little warning.

      My all time favourite drink is a good strong draught cider. Mustn't be too sweet. We have a local one called Aspal that is excellent. As you know, I also love Pimms No 1 in the summer, gin and tonic anytime at all, and sloe gin when I am feeling chilled. I also like Advocaat (from the Netherlands) and Limoncello (from Italy). And yes, I know, I sound like an alcoholic, but in actual fact I drink very rarely unless socialising, and even then, if I am driving, I don't drink more than one glass.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  7. Thanks for taking the time to update us while you are going through this ordeal.
    Hold on to each other and soon this ordeal will be over. Hugs to you.

    How are things going with the move? Did you get to go on a little vacation?

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    1. Thanks for your hugs, Sunny.

      The barn is sold, the new people are in, and we are very relieved. The house is gradually getting organised, but we have plans for a new kitchen in the summer (our old oil central heating boiler is on its last legs so we are going to have a new one place outside to free up some room in the kitchen), I want to take a crowbar to the ceiling and walls of one of the spare bedrooms to expose the beams a lot more, and we are going to build a cartlodge so our cars don't have to stand out at night. That should take us up to next winter, I reckon.

      Yes we did get away for five days/four nights to Marrakesh. It was a lovely (and very sunny) break and we needed it badly. But it wasn't restful as we went with four other couples and trekked all over the place sightseeing. We have been before and we stayed at the same Riad in the middle of the Medina. It's an incredible place and one I would recommend putting on a bucket list. No where else is quite like it, and the square at night is simply amazing with the snake charmers, henna tatooists, orange juice sellers and Berbers selling everything under the sun (or the moon!). We we could travel more, but I am sure we will as soon as Dan feels better.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  8. I really do appreciate the update. I think of my blogging friends a lot, I don't see people as "just blogging friends" but real true friends. Strange when we haven't met, but true. I'm glad things are going as well as they are and I look for them to get even better.

    Questions, What would be your 'perfect' date, from leaving the house throughout the whole thing...

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    1. PK - what a lovely thing to say. You never know, we may meet one day. I hope you won't be disappointed. LOL!

      This is NEVER going to happen, but I think for Dan to greet me with a beautiful bunch of flowers and to announce he is taking me out to dinner and maybe even dancing. (No, not a noisy disco!) It would be lovely to go to a smart restaurant, perhaps the Savoy or the Ritz, and be waited on hand and foot. Perhaps he could arrange for us to stay the night and have breakfast the next morning.

      Even after all these years we love each other's company and feel very comfortable even during silences. We don't hold hands much - never have - but we have a tendency to walk arm in arm matching each other's steps. (If I don't do that I end up like an Arab wife - ten steps behind!)

      Dan took me out for the day last Sunday and it wasn't planned. It was a warm and sunny day and we went to the Norfolk Broads where we walked along the waterside where it was possible and looked at all the boats being readied for the season. He bought me lunch and was attentive all day. It was just lovely doing something unplanned and being together. It doesn't have to be expensive - that is pure fantasy. So it was a "perfect" date as far as I was concerned.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  9. Like I said, you are not being morose...at least not with us. You are being guarded and you have so much on your plate right now. Please don't let us be one of those things. I know it would be much easier for you if you were having the surgery, but I'm certain DAN wouldn't think so...wink.

    Okay....let me think....what is the one thing you miss most about my fair country?

    love
    willie

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    1. Hi Willie and thank you for doing your best to hammer my moroseness out of me!

      You are asking me something very difficult. Remember I still have an old maths book with more than thirty pressed maple leaves from when I was 5!!! So I have to say I miss your autumns very much indeed. But other things too. I miss your lovely reliably hot summers when you can take off and go either to the nearest water spot for a swim, or to the lake. I miss "Blizzards" from Snow Queen. I miss supermarkets like Zeller's (does it still exist?) I miss all the unfenced yards and the sprinklers that suddenly shoot up and whiz round and give you a cold wet shock around your upper thighs. I miss the parades with the cheerleaders and the local rodeos with bull riding. I miss the horse riding for miles and miles straight across country with no fences or boundaries to worry about. I really, really miss popsicles - we don't have them here. And gatorade. And root beer. I miss hearing the crickets chirping at night.

      How could I possibly single out one thing from my list. I can't. I think I need to refresher trip. It would be so great.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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    2. I agree! You do need a refresher trip!!! I know just the perfect city too.

      Zellers no longer exists as of a couple of years ago. Target bought them out. You were very close with Snow Queen, but it is Dairy Queen where you buy the Blizzards- unfortunately we had a real blizzard last night that was no where near as satisfying as Ice Milk.

      I too long for my HOT summer...lol Actually last summer was not fantastic- consistently. But I'd pick a bad summer day over this crap Mother B*tch has been giving us this winter!

      Ahhhhhhhhh popsicles! Fantastic when your a child, wonderful the next day after drinking too much the night before as an adult! lol

      Hugs to you my friend. Soon most of your things on your plate will be a distant memory. You can count on it!

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  10. Ami,
    We are keeping you and Dan in our prayers.
    Meredith

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    1. Thank you very much Meredith - it's very important to us.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  11. Hugs, Ami dear. I have been remiss in getting around blogland lately, but I saw a post from you and wanted to check in. Some questions for you, as I'm afraid I can't add anything new to the love and support you have already received:

    Have you ever made cottage pie?

    Why is it called "pie" when it's not round and doesn't have a crust?

    How many new pairs of spotty knickers have you bought since Christmas?

    How many times should Minelle get spanked?

    How do you like Carribean jerk seasoning?

    Now that you've gotten to try both, do you prefer UK weight-based food measurements or US volume-based food measurements? (X number of grams of flour vs. X number of cups, for example)

    If you were Mrs. Claus, how would you spend your off-season?

    What is your favorite color?

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    1. Thanks, Ana, I know I have your love and support and I am very grateful for it!

      Over here cottage pie is made with beef mince and Shepherd's pie is made with lamb mince. But now we call cottage pie Shepherd's pie because very few people both to make it with lamb mince any more. So it's entirely confusing. You can make cottage pie with a pastry lid if you want to, (my mother often did) but it's not the same without the lovely mashed potato and cheese on top.

      I haven't the foggiest idea why it's called a pie when it's not round and doesn't have a crust, but I would imagine it's because years ago you made a "raised" pie and filled it with any odds and bits of meat you had left over from a meal, poured in some gravy or jelled stock, and put a pastry lid on it. You can still buy traditional pork pies made that way. Over the years it became simpler to forget the pastry, and to make the Shepherd's or Cottage pies adding vegetables and putting potato on the top. They are my favourite comfort food! Totally yummy!

      I have only bought two pairs and they no longer have spots, they have a Paisley pattern on now. Still get them from White Stuff though. Best everyday knickers I know - so comfortable.

      I think at the moment Minelle needs rather more spanks than she thinks she does as she isn't doing her health much good with all those long hours of work. We will have to form a rota.

      I like Carribean jerk seasoning but it doesn't like me very much. I have to be enormously careful with it as my stomach finds it too hot. I had Chinese crispy chilli beef last night from a takeaway, and suffered all morning!

      I still use pounds and ounces in my cooking, but because all children are taught metric measures in school here, many cookery books come just in metric. I find cups very confusing. Can't get my head around them at all.

      I happen to know that Mrs Claus is at this time servicing all her spanking implements in readiness for September when the run up to Christmas begins in earnest. She has requested several large and heavy French jam spoons which she has threatened to try out on certain vulnerable little rear-ends and the names Minelle, Cat, Ana, Ami and Katie were just a few which I happened to overhear. I, personally, have resolved to be very good indeed!

      My favourite colour is blue - the shade that goes towards lavender.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  12. Ami, I didn't know about Dan and I'm so sorry to hear that. I'll be praying for you both and that this procedure gets it all. Thanks for letting us know.

    It sounds like you and Dan have had some wonderful trips. Where would you recommend the rest of us visit if money were no object?

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    1. Thank you so much Leah for your kind words and prayers.

      I make getting good value for money into a science when it comes to taking a vacation. I love last minute deals and I play travel agents off not only against each other but also I show them printouts of deals I find on the internet and challenge them to do it cheaper.

      As we get older we like our comfort more, and I never was a "camper", so we tend to go for a hotel with a swimming pool and a clean, sandy beach. We also tend to go for "all inclusive" holidays these days as it generally saves a lot of money in the long run. The rule of thumb is that the further "east" you go (think third world here) you need to up the star ratings, as a three or four star is not the same as it is in the UK or the USA for example.

      Dan and I have a favourite destination - it is the Maldive Islands in the Indian Ocean. They are, sadly, sinking under the sea due to global warming and the last time we went we noticed how bad the erosion is. I would go back there at the drop of a hat, but they have now been "discovered" by the rich and famous and have become very expensive. Another beautiful place is a tiny island (it is ALL hotel) just off the coast of Sabana in the Dominican Republic. I recall it is called Cayo Coco (at least I think it is, but you could look it up). We had an amazing holiday there, but it was one August and was far too hot for us as it was in the upper nineties every day.

      Value for money is Egypt and we went on a Nile Cruise to celebrate our silver wedding anniversary. The prices are very competitive. If you like diving Sharm el Sheik is a popular destination and very good value for money.

      If you like cruising, the smaller ships are generally a lot less money than the large ships. We have found that cruises are good "tasters" and if you like a place you can then return for a holiday knowing that you already liked it.

      We have a huge bucket list left to work our way through, God willing, but if you want to ask me anything about a country you fancy visiting, please email me, I might have a suggestion or two.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  13. Lots of good wishes and prayers coming your way. Try not to worry too much. Yeah, right - like that's even possible. My husband had a similar treatment for his prostate cancer and all turned out very good.

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    1. Thank you, Holla, for your good wishes and prayers. We are grateful.

      I would also like to hear about your husband if that could be possible. It is immensely reassuring to hear he is now well and his treatment worked out all right. Perhaps you would email me? I couldn't find your email address on your blog. Maybe I looked in the wrong spot.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  14. Hi Ami, thank you so much for the update. Sending positive thoughts and prayers to you, Dan and family. I have, and will be thinking of you.

    It looks as though you have a number of questions to tackle so I will just add what is your favourite music? Also, being the wonderful hostess that you are, what is you favourite dish to create?

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz and thank you so much for your kind thoughts and prayers.

      I have an eclectic mix of music I listen to on my I-pod. Some of the artists I enjoy listening to are: James Blunt, HIM, Lana Del Rey, The Killers,Travis, Passenger, Marion Roudette, Nanci Griffith, Honey Ryder, Enya, Dire Straits, Coldplay, Christina Perri, Bryan Adams, Amy Macdonald, Snow Patrol. The list is pretty endless. I like some opera too.

      One of my favourite starters is a Frosted Salmon Mousse, followed by Spiced Slow-Cooked Lamb Shanks and finishing with Dark Chocolate Truffle Torte. I try to attempt at least two or three "new" recipes every week as I have a vast collection of cookery books and otherwise only tend to keep to the same recipes.

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  15. Hugs, Ami. Still saying daily prayers for Dan's health, and for your strength and peace of mind. I'm sorry I didn't know there were more developments and worries.

    I know you just want the docs to get that cancer out of him - NOW! Waiting and waiting for surgery is so much more worrisome and wearing on both of you.

    I certainly understand your wish for distraction from the weight of those emotions. I think some of those questions up there are going to keep you very busy! ;-) You did realize asking for distracting questions is throwing the door wide open? Lol! ;-)

    Did you ever come up with an exact count on the number of knickers you own? ;-)

    Do you have any good tips for everyday routines or chores that make your life easier or more enjoyable by saving time, effort or money? Such as, organizing, cleaning, mail, budgeting/finance, couponing, shopping, gardening, socializing online or in person, party planning, keeping up with important dates of relatives and friends, etc?

    What are some of the most appealing things for you about a ttwd relationship, including things you currently have/experience as well as things you've only read or heard about in other people's dynamics?

    What are some of the most relaxing things you do, and why do you find them calming?

    What little things make you smile?

    Hugs to you, Ami.

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    1. Thank you Irishey, you are a good friend!

      No, I never came up with the exact number of my knickers to date. Sad but true. Some are everyday knickers and some are pretty dressing up to go out knickers you'd wear if you were worried about being knocked over by a bus, and then I have some uber sexy knickers which don't see the light of day often enough because the lace has a tendency to itch.

      Good tips eh? Golly. No one has ever asked me for good tips before. LOL! I try to plan the week's meals so I have the ingredients at the ready. Also helps costs and I don't seem to need so much stuff in my store cupboards as I used to.

      I do have a couple of hours a week help with cleaning, but I try to keep on top of things and do a room a day. When the kids were small I decided that it was more important to be a good mum than be fixated on cleaning, and so I just used to have a quick tidy around at the end of each day, and we were fortunate enough to have a "rumpus room" for them where they kept their toys. They weren't allowed toys in the drawing room unless it was Christmas. Dan and I had to have one little oasis of calm to retreat to at the end of the day. Dan has control of all our finances and he is very good at it. I always earned a good chunk of money and had certain bills I was expected to pay each month, so I never had to ask Dan for money and he never ever told me what I could and couldn't spend it on - BUT I had to be very careful and not mess up. I only did it once, many many years ago, and Dan was furious. It would most certainly have earned a mega spanking if it happened now. But now I have retired we just pool our money and it works well. I don't need much anyway, and I don't think I am particularly high maintenance these days apart from my hair which is done every six weeks. I shop for groceries via the internet and it is sooooo much easier. We have a calendar in the kitchen we are very careful to put ALL appointments on except that Dan sometimes forgets to transfer his appointments out of his business diary. I love gardening but cannot dig as my back isn't strong any more, so we have a little man who comes and helps with the digging (we are on heavy clay) and I get to do all the nice bits. I keep coupons and use them whenever possible and make a lot of use of supermarket loyalty cards especially for Channel Tunnel crossings and magazine subscriptions. I also use Groupon (don't know it you have it in the US). My computer is ancient and my smart phone is constantly playing up, so I often use Dan's computer when he is out or not using it.

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    2. When I first discovered spanking I was very agitated and not happy that men did this thing to their wives. But I read several blogs which sadly are no longer around, and became fixated on it. I received a lot of help and advice, but it took an enormous amount of courage to bring the subject up with Dan, and I remember hiding under his armpit and getting very upset. The Dd relationship I thought I wanted at first never happened, and I doubt ever will due to lots of factors. But our TTWD dynamic works for us. It has evolved and changed a great deal since its inception. I think the important thing is that you don't try to help it along. Even if you are truly fed up with your partner for not catching on in the way you want them to. It will come. It will develop. It may not go the way you thought it would, but you will suddenly realise you are happy and could never go back to how you once were. I love being spanked and yet I now know I couldn't bear being watched and pulled up about everything. Real life has to be handled by both people in a relationship not just one, no matter how HOHy he is. And if he is a good HOH he will recognise that. There are times when the woman has to show strength and times when she must take a back seat. It is knowing when to do what that is difficult. Dan and I are still novices and I couldn't possibly tell anyone else what to do, only explain what we do and let them make their own way. It is also important to recognise that the HOH will (and does) make mistakes and he simply MUST make amends and not be so convinced he is right that he ignores the upset applecart and helps to cause distancing. With a long relationship of thirty years or more, you should jolly well know what pleases and what displeases your other half. My problem is my temperament which can get rather heated at times. Then Dan has to step in and remind me of the pecking order! LOL!

      For us personally, the closeness is the best thing. The way my body reacts to his touch. The reinforcement of our love for each other. Being considerate. Treating your other half like your best friend. Doing little unexpected things just to please like taking him tea and cake at 4 pm. Letting him suggest new things and take the lead more in bed - which sounds easy, but can be scary or uncomfortable to begin with if it's something new. Developing tolerance of his faults - like leaving his discarded clothing all over the place. Sometimes I would quite like to be spanked a little longer or a little harder or a little more often, but maybe that will come - I don't want to ruin things by forcing it, even though I can still find myself jealous of others at times. LOL!

      To relax I do quilting, which is a new hobby I have only recently taken up. I love reading all sorts of current literature but mainly novels, and of course I am working on my writing. I used to do a lot of art but then didn't have the time, so it is my intention to return to that again - mainly water colours. I love gardening and my favourite plants are perennials such as hollyhocks, delphiniums, lavenders, lupins, stocks and foxgloves.

      Nearly everything can make me smile. I have a devilish sense of humour and can lead anyone astray at the drop of a hat. Dan and I share our sense of humour - very important. I do get told off at times for laughing too loudly. I can't look at my grandkids without smiling!

      Many hugs
      Ami

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  16. Ami, I will pray for Dan. Have faith that everything will be fine ..
    Keeping my fingers crossed ..

    Hugs and love,
    Mona Lisa

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  17. Thank you very much, ML. All prayers at this time are gratefully received in this household.

    Many hugs
    Ami

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  18. Ami, I will be adding my prayers for you and Dan. Wow, so many great questions. I will just send positive vibes your way.

    Hugs,
    George

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  19. Ami, sending you both positive thoughts and warm wishes for a successful procedure and speedy recovery!

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