Wednesday 29 May 2013

Friendship

Today I met up with a friend I had never seen before - well, not in the flesh anyway.  It was an amazing experience.  This is her.  She is as lovely as her picture!




Starman knows I "chat" to my friends in Bloggerland.  Usually a mixture of emailing, telephone and "on-line" chatting.  The one thing I hate about it is the difference in time zones.  Invariably when I get the time to read some blogs, everything has moved on so much I feel left behind.  But not today.  Because it was only a short time ago I discovered that another member of our community lives only about an hour from me!  So we agreed that when the half term holiday came around, we would meet up at a half-way point.

But then, Starman suddenly turned into Mr HOH Ivanhoe!



Brandishing his 'virtual' sword he decided he was going to defend me against all odds.  Oh dear!

"But this is English Rose, Starman" I explained.  "You've spoken to her on the telephone."

"Only to say 'Hello'."  He was being a bit implacable.  And believe me, Starman does 'implacable' extremely well.  "She could be anybody Ami.  All these people could be anybody!"




"But only because you won't read about them or try to get to know any of them!"  I was beginning to feel thwarted.  "I speak to her every week, like I do Minelle!"

"Ah, but Minelle lives across an ocean so you're hardly going to get on the train and nip off to see her for lunch."

"No, but I'd like to."  I had to get Starman's 'willing' approval to meeting my friend.  It was no good getting shirty with him.

"Look, honey, I'll take my mobile phone, with me.  I'll leave you the number of her mobile, and also her home phone number.  You can always phone her husband if you are worried."

"But how do I know he's her husband?  You read these things in the papers all the time.  Women like you are lured into 'situations'!"

"Oh for goodness....."  Then I suddenly thought of all the advantages.



I started to grin at Starman - I had this picture in my mind, you know, just laying about all day, being bathed in marble tubs full of rose petals....



Starman saw the grin and wasn't impressed.  

"What do I tell the children if something happens to you?" he wanted to know, despite the fact that the 'children' are both in their thirties!  

"You just tell them I was meeting a friend for lunch and shopping."  My nerves were beginning to shred, but I did reach an agreement, and promptly looked up train times and watched the weather forecast.  (As it happened, it was cold and damp when I left home, so I dressed accordingly, then spent a hot, uncomfortable day whilst Jan looked cool, calm and collected!)

I went to bed that night all excited, with dreams of nice lunches and shopping!



I was awake good and early the next morning.  Unfortunately Starman was awake 'gooder' and 'earlier'.  he was definitely very restless.  I decided to have a quick dash downstairs and make us morning drinks.  Nothing like a strong cup of Yorkshire tea to sooth a troubled man's brow!



Maybe it wasn't quite as posh as this one, but I did make it in his favourite mug.  I thought he would be pleased.  He was.  But unfortunately whilst I'd still been sleeping he'd done some thinking, and the early morning thoughts of a troubled man are the worst kind.




I had finished my coffee and had snuggled back down under the covers.  After all, it wasn't even 7.30 am!  I didn't notice him sitting up and making himself comfortable.  I could vaguely feel him stroking my left thigh.

Then!!!

The sneaky snake!!  I was hoicked into position over his lap and he was stroking my bottom instead of my thigh!  My view was of the floorboards (once again!) and he started to explain his worries and to give me instructions.  (It wasn't all bad, because he does wondrous things up and down my spine with the tips of his fingers and I end up purring!)



But then I felt a blaze of heat lap across my right cheek!  It was repeated on my left!

"What are you doing?!" I shrieked and did my best to roll over.  The wonderful stroky hand was now my worst enemy as it pinned me effectively across his lap.

Starman kept spanking, neither too fast nor too slow.  Just a pleasant rhythm from side to side, ensuring a rise in temperature.

"I decided that it would be wrong to prevent you from meeting you friend.  But that I could ensure a few safety measures."



"So it would be in your best interests to pay attention to what I have to say," he went on.  "I will take you down to the station and help you get a return ticket.  I will see you on to the train, ensuring that your ticket is an 'any time' return.  I will expect you to text me when you sit down for lunch.  I will expect you to text me when you are on the train ready for the homeward journey, and I will expect you to text me when you get to D--- (a town ten minutes down the line from our station) so that I can be at the station in time to meet you off the train."

He spanked steadily.  The heat wasn't just building.  It had built!  I cannot possibly describe how much harder and more confident his hands seem after six months of practice!




"And you better not miss that train home, Ami.  I mean that."




His hand spanked me right across my bottom stinging me, well, you know where!!!  Wow that felt like an ever recurring wasp sting!  The rat!  I know I am never sore for long, but I knew at that point that it was going to be just the right length of "long"!  Sitting for lunch wouldn't be fun on a hard chair!

"I won't miss the train," I assured him, trying to nod my head, (which is very difficult upside down) and thinking to myself that if this was just a little reminder, then I certainly wouldn't want to incur a 'correction'.  

"Good.  I feel much happier now."  He hauled my upright and sat me across his lap.  Hmmm.  My hand went back to rub gingerly at my rump.  But actually, maybe reminders are a good idea.  I had just the right amount of burn.  

Interval!!



We then had a fascinating post coital discussion about old Victorian spanking knickers.  Please do not ask me how this conversation came about.  I think it was because I told him I was going underwear shopping yet again, and he said I didn't need them to be spanked, and I said that some husbands started spanking their wives over their knickers and then pulled them down, and I had never had the experience, and then somehow we were talking about knickers like these:



I would prefer a prettier ribbon myself!



But I could see the benefits.



And Starman liked the thought of these the most!  Aren't new horizons wonderful things to be travelling towards?!




Hey!  I didn't mean new horizons like this!!


The time between breakfast and me catching the train seemed to fly by.  I was so happy that Starman put me on the train.  I'm not the most confident person around trains, and have been known to get on the wretched things going in the wrong direction in the London underground.  However, this journey was so much easier.  But I did worry, just a little, that Jan may have changed her mind about meeting me, or that I wouldn't recognise her, or her me.

However, Jan met me at the station and I recognised her straight away because she looks just like her picture.

We got on immediately, and the trouble is that we had so much to talk about that we abandoned shopping in favour of an early lunch in the end.  So no armfuls of carrier bags.



We found an empty table with comfortable chairs (bliss!) and sat down opposite each other.  We had a lovely, and healthy lunch in a large department store, and were soon deep in conversation about our favourite topic - spanking!  That is, until an elderly couple came and sat one on either side of us!  We couldn't believe it.  It certainly cramped out style!  Luckily they didn't stay too long.  Probably the whispered conversation got to them!



No, no, I swear we didn't give this  impression!  More like this




It was such a relief to be able to chat with a like-minded friend.  We talked about all sorts of things, not just spanking situations, but of course that little topic was pretty near the top of our agenda.

Jan had brought me a lovely pressie to hang on the wall near my computer.  I've done my best to photograph it.  It was so well chosen.  Thank you very much Jan!


It reads "Friends are like stars, You don't have to see them to know they are there!"  What a kind thought!

We found we had many similarities in our dynamics, and of course there were things we did differently.  But it was the camaraderie, the understanding of something shared, that was so heart warming.  It is only when you meet in the flesh that you realise how isolated we all are, and how very important our little community is.  The friends I have made here mean a great deal to me.


We chatted so much that lunch was suddenly 'afternoon tea'.  This is where I cross my fingers and put my hands behind my back and mutter the word cake!  I know, I know - sadly I ate far too much.  It looked so nice, and I just succumbed.



Yet another black mark on my list of shortcomings for the week!  But before you ask, yes, I did remember to text Starman.  I told him that we were having a lovely lunch and not to worry as I was obviously considered too old and intimidating to warrant the risk of adding me to some far away harem.  All he replied was "Good."

So our afternoon slid rapidly towards the time when I had to return to catch my train.  We did, however, manage to visit a shop or two, and yes, I was able to add to my collection of lacy knickers!  (As if I wouldn't!)  I did, however, buy practical and comfortable ones, without a back seam.  (I wonder why that is?!)  And I got three pairs for the price of two!


We caught a taxi back to the station, and Jan went to collect her car from the car park before the ticket ran out.  We are definitely going to meet up again - but next time we both hope we won't have to sit on sore bottoms!  

I got on the train and texted Starman to say I was safely aboard.  He replied "Good."

When the train reached D---, I again texted him and he replied "Good."

So I texted him and said "Just 'Good'?"

He replied "Gooooooooood!"

I tried again "I love you.  XXXXXXXXX."

He replied "Good."

I sat quietly watching the countryside drift past.  Then my phone went.  Another text.

"It's raining cats and dogs here.  When you get off the train, don't go across the bridge, go through the gap in the wall and down the steps to the car park at the back, and I'll meet you with an umbrella!"

I texted back "Good!"

In fact, I couldn't believe my luck.  The carriage I was travelling in stopped right opposite the gap.  I fumbled madly with the door.  In the UK you have to wind down the window, then lean out and turn the handle on the 'outside' of the door in order to leave the train.  I got in such a flap!  Luckily a boy of about 15 waded in to help, and then (horrors) took my arm like an old lady and helped me down the step and on to the platform.  (I'm still mortified!)

I ran through the rain, quickly down the steps and into Starman's arms.  It felt so good to be met.  I had gotten into such a panic that the door wasn't opening and I would end up miles down the line at another station!

But now I was back in the place I felt the safest.  I felt very cherished and cared for.


I am soooo glad my husband is my bestest friend of all!











45 comments:

  1. What a great experience Ami!!!
    Being an HoH I have to say I always agree with other HoHs when they are cautious. But it turned out so well and you even got to experience a Reminder Spanking before going to meet your wonderful friend Jan :)
    # MrBBSpanker

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    1. You read of such awful things happening to people due to the internet, that I respect Starman's point of view completely on this. It was lovely to meet up with a bloggy friend in social setting and have such an enjoyable day. We had so much to talk about! Maybe I will have to go 'walkabout' and have some more lunches and tea parties!

      On the other hand, would my butt cope with all those reminders?!

      Hugs

      Ami

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  2. Hi Ami, I am glad that you enjoyed our grand day out. I did too. It will soon be summer and we can do it again. How lucky we are to live so close to each other. They were such comfy chairs too lol
    love Jan.xxx

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    1. It was the highlight of my half term break! Yesterday at the Agricultural Show it was freezing cold and very miserable! (But our son's girlfriend got a second in the sidesaddle working hunter class, then went on the get firsts in both sidesaddle classes and winning the supreme championship - so it was worth it!

      We are very lucky to live so close and yes, I am glad the chairs were comfy! What a lovely day!

      Hugs

      Ami

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  3. How lovely you two were able to meet. I'm jealous. So wonderful that you will be able to do it again and again.

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    1. Sunny, believe me, if you were in my vicinity, I would track you down. I can only say how helpful it was to meet up, and how we were able to make a lot of comparisons. We are different, yet similar. We will meet again in the summer.

      Hugs

      Ami

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  4. What a wonderful day! Well, except for the rain and almost getting stuck on the train! I, like sunnygirl, have to admit that I'm also jealous. So wish I had a real life DD friend that I could meet. ;) Enjoy!

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    1. I am very pleased to meet you, and thank you for dropping by. I am very fortunate we live relatively close, although we discovered it quite by chance. It's certainly a good idea to get to know people here, because you never know who may live just a short journey away.

      Hugs

      Ami

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  5. I think my husband would have had a lot of the same concerns. I'm glad Starman let you go though, as it sounds like you ladies had a lovely time:)

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    1. We did have a lovely time. At one point I really began to think Starman wasn't going to let me go, and so glad when he simply needed reassurance that I would keep in touch with him. I would've done that anyway. Now we both feel we can trust each other.

      Hugs

      Ami

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  6. Awww! Starman is cute.
    I am glad you both could meet and have a great time!
    Lol! Love the pics Ami!

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    1. Starman is cute most of the time - but he does have his moments!

      I found it very helpful and reassuring to meet up with a fellow blogger. We had such a good day.

      Hugs

      Ami

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  7. Ami, I'm so glad that you had such a wonderful day together! How fun! :). I love the back and forth with the word "good"! That would so be Rob- just like that! It made me smile! These men are pretty good protectors aren't they? Hugs to you! I owe you an email! I'm SO behind (lol)!

    <3 Katie

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    1. My husband is not a man of many words when just one or two will do. I asked him why "Why don't we send each other little texts all the time? Lots of the other girls do that." He looked at me as if I were some sort of nut "I just can't do that. It isn't me. And anyway, why break the habit of a life time?"

      Oh well, at least I know he cares enough to look out for my safety. That's quite refreshing in this day and age.

      Hugs

      Ami

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  8. I too had a pretty eventful couple of days 'meeting' 'new' people. It is amazing isn't it, how natural it seems when you finally become face to face? Of course we have laid the ground work via blogs, texts, chats, phone calls. We shouldn't be surprised...but I was too!

    You are so lucky to be so close. Heck people in North America have longer commutes to work!

    love, willie

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    1. Oh Willie, we were thinking about you. Glad to hear you had a brilliant time too. Did you have far to travel? You even took your dog!

      I know we are quite close, but our roads are sooooo awful and chocked full of traffic. At least you have multi-lane roads that stretch for miles!

      We did talk a great deal. I felt quite sleepy going home on the train. I don't think we paused for breath!

      Hugs

      Ami

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    2. Barney and I only had a couple of hours to travel ( one on a 4 lane road the rest country roads). Yes the whole fandamily went including the bipolar mutt!

      It was wonderful and relaxing...Lots and lots of laughs, singing and even a little kitchen dancing! Okay that was mostly me...lol. I'd do it again in a heartbeat, without the nerves next time!

      You know North America is a lovely place to visit?
      willie

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  9. Ami, I think this is just wonderful! I remember meeting my first blogging friend in person nearly 6 years ago. She and her husband came here first and then a few months later I drove to her home (500 miles away) to be with her when she had surgery. Spanking friends are such fun - of course it not all we have in common, but this secret does make a really strong bond.

    And not trying to get your honey all shook up, but how does he KNOW Minelle is in the US? She could be a little old man next door. It does come down to blogging and talking to one another. I think our radar is usually pretty good about the folks we talk to.

    So glad you had fun!

    Hugs,
    PK

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    1. Oh PK I am so impressed. Six years ago! I have a long way to go and such a lot to learn! Help! And your FIRST friend. Oh I wish I were closer! (Wretched ocean - snarl !!)

      Hmmm, he knows Minelle is in the US because we get free calls through Sky and talk every week almost, but I see what you mean, Minelle could be anyone! Hmmmm, perhaps Minelle is anyone!!! LOL! What can I say? Just don't you voice any fears you have to Starman please! My butt wouldn't cope with it!

      Hugs

      Ami

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    2. Hey I could be a grumpy old man with a high voice! You and PK should know...Sunny and Ana too!
      I so missed our convo last week! I am so glad you guys had fun!!!
      That Starman! LOL

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  10. I have to admit, I'm a little jealous. There are several bloggers i would love to meet. How fabulous for you both!!

    I love that your husband is your bestest friend!

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    1. I once said I'd like to have a big tea party just for my blogging friends. If only we didn't live so far apart. There again, maybe some of us live closer than we think. It's very reassuring to know there are others like you are.

      I always used to joke with Starman that he was my biggest bestest bestest biggest friend. And it sort of stuck.

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      Ami

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  11. oh ami i am so jealous! this sounds like such a great first meeting, and i'm sure you'll be long time friends now. how exciting! :)

    i'll tell you, long before my husband and i ever attempted ttwd, i had "rules" so-to-speak. altho they were never called "rules" but i KNEW that there was no point in even asking because the answer would be a quick, "no." for instance, i cannot go out alone when it's dark, i am never to go places that i'm unsure of or unless i have good, solid directions and i am always to have the front door locked.

    and we live in a TINY TOWN! lol there's no metro station or whatever, it's SMALL. lol so my professor can be crazy-protective. he just likes being cautious. so i completely understand why starman was the way he was with you.

    a few years ago i took the kids into the city to get new shoes for the beginning of school and my professor kissed me goodbye and said, "please be careful. my life is in this car." and it made me stop and think, it's so true. we are his life. everything he loves. you know? he just wants us to be safe and i'm really okay with that. :)

    i'm so glad you had a lovely time and i'm even more glad that your husband cares enough about you to make sure you're safe and protected... even if your bottom gets sore in the process. giggles. :)

    hugs,
    m.

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    1. That is the nicest thing I have ever heard "Please be careful, my life is in this car."

      We live in deepest darkest rural England, so the tiny railway station in the town has meant lots of people have moved out of London, to live "country" lives. Things aren't the same anymore. We have to lock our houses, lock our cars, lock everything! My car now has self-locking so that when I am driving along the doors are locked and no-one can try to open a door, when I am stopped at traffic lights for instance. So, like you, our rules on me being out on my own, especially after dark, are unwritten but they still apply.

      Truthfully, I didn't mind that little reminder spanking at all. At least it got me listening, (made me aware of sitting!) and reminded me to contact him at regular intervals to let him know I was okay.

      It was a lovely day out meeting Jan. You can just imagine how much we had to say to each other!

      Hugs

      Ami

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  12. Sounds lovely, Ami - I am so glad you had a wonderful day and that you ended up where you are happiest, in your man's arms.
    hugs
    lillie

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    1. I have always loved going out with friends, or a friend, for the day. But I have always loved coming back to Starman. It's strange, because I am a very strong and independent gal, but I love being back to tell him all about my day. As long as I can remember, he has put me on a train, and picked me up at the end of the day. I think he knows I get nervous on my own. I love him to bits for it.

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      Ami

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  13. Hey Ami,

    I am so glad you and Jan had such a wonderful first meeting and I hope it is the first of many more to come for you. I will admit, I'm a tad more than a little jealous too.

    I love that you ended the day where you feel safest and feeling loved and cared for. I can imagine Rick would be much the same as Starman. He would be concerned about my safety during the trip the whole time and would insist on me checking in. I for one love the protectiveness.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. I'd never thought much about protectiveness before, but this has made an impression on me. (And on my butt!)

      It was a very easy journey, and lunch was great, and of course I ended up eating far too much cake! It was all worth it though.

      Hugs

      Ami

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  14. Ami,

    How wonderful you and Jan got to meet and had such a great day. Its special, isn't it? I've met a friend twice now and hope to meet again in the summer.

    I'm also hoping (haven't told P yet:)) to visit NY next year to meet some friends.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Oh Ronnie - were your ears burning? We did whisper that maybe we could all meet up for a bigger lunch and tea party at some time this year? Half way perhaps? A small "ladies' day out"! It was so good to chat to someone who understood. Mind you, we talked about everything. We talked for England. It's a good job we didn't shop for England as well! I wonder if our butts would survive such a meeting?! Mine probably wouldn't....

      How wonderful to catch a plane instead of a train! Will P mind? S would be far too nervous!

      Hugs

      Ami

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  15. Aw, I love the way your Starman takes such good care of you! I wish I had a RL DD friend, I'm jealous too! I'm sure this visit will be only the first of many. Do you think there'll be a reminder spanking before each one? :)

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    1. Thanks Queenie. He does take good care of me, but this time it was a little, shall we say, unexpected. But lovely too.

      Making friends here is quite easy, you just have to be brave and start emailing. It was just a real coincidence that Jan turned out to be within easy reach. She is a lovely lady and I so hope we can meet up again.

      I think, somehow, that there might be reminder spankings for several things from now on.....

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      Ami

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  16. That's so wonderful you got to meet Jan. I too hope to meet friends irl. It's a bit difficult what with me living in the states and most of my friends living in Canada. I have been finding more and more USA friends though, so that's nice. One of them even loves close by! Although I don't think I will get to meet her any time soon. Her husband is VERY protective. That's okay. I'll live. :)
    Glad you had a great visit! (((hugs)))

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    1. It would be great if you could meet someone who lives close by. Perhaps her husband will understand that it is so important for us to be able to talk with someone who does what we do. Support and sympathy, and cups of tea or coffee! are very good for us!

      Hugs

      Ami

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  17. Aw, that's a great story! So glad you had such a good time!!

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    1. It was a brilliant day out. Thanks Elle.

      Hugs

      Ami

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  18. I commented in the wrong place....grrrrr! I am out of it. Blame it on my recent trip!

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    1. Oh? Where? I must go look for it!

      Ahhhh, I found it. So now you're a grumpy old man? He He! Thanks, and hugs,

      Ami

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  19. How fun! It sounds like you and Jan had a lovely time. And Starman certainly took good care of you. :)

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    1. Yes it was great thank you. I just wish we could all be close enough to have a grand annual tea party!

      Hugs

      Ami

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  20. How sweet. And Starman was quite right...you do need to be careful. There are some dangerous characters online. ;) Glad you had such a lovely day.

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    1. I know. I realise now. We read horrible things every day and never imagine they could happen to us or to people we know and love. I get upset with the fact that I am afraid to trust people.

      The day was great, thank you.

      Hugs

      Ami

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  21. Sounds quite wonderful. I would love to meet some friends but I think that will be a long wait for me. :)

    Glad you had such a good day!
    sara

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    1. It's a case of building up trust and friendship. We all do it in every day life, but we must be rather more careful when we are on-line. I am glad everything worked out well. Thanks Sara.

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      Ami

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  22. I am glad you had such a nice visit! Friendships are so important. :-) And glad Starman is watching out for you! :-) Hugs

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