Monday, 21 January 2013

Speechless!

I don't really know how to start this post.  I'm not too sure how to approach the subject matter.  But it's getting to the point that I need, not exactly advice, but reassurance that we're not simply some crazy, kinky couple.

The thing is this:  no-one told me how spanking would affect, well, you know what.  You don't?  How can I put this?  That it would lead to, well, certain feelings.  Feelings that won't be denied.  Feelings that demand action!

I suppose I'm going to have to suppress my inner-prude, and explain.

And before you say anything, yes, I know I've never had a punishment or really been disciplined.  But heck, Starman spanks really, really hard during our reaffirmation sessions.  And they are lengthy too.  And I get the bruises to prove it.  And I've had to make a major investment in arnica gel.

But the spankings themselves - they have this effect on us.  Well, mainly Starman.  And that means that I get to benefit too.  And well, actually, they have a certain effect on me too!  

Starman has gone off on business for a couple of days 'up north' as we say.  We sat in bed this morning drinking our usual cup of tea/coffee - whatever.  For me it was a wonderful start to a Monday, because it was a "snow day".  Yes, my school was closed due to heavy overnight snowfall!  (Major disruption in the UK a bit of snow, I can tell you!)  And we were chatting about everyday things.  

"You took your nightie off"  Starman was feeling down my hip.

"I was too hot.  I thought I would be cold last night, but somehow I ended up boiling."

"Can I remember you asking if you could wear that thing?"

Hmmm.  "I told you I wanted to wear it because it was so cold in our bedroom.  Don't you remember?"

"What, when you went to bed?"

"Yes.  You were watching the end of The Bourne Supremacy for the umpteenth time."

"Wonderful film."  Starman thought for a minute.

"Oh yes, now I remember."  Hmmmm.  "But you took it off?"

Were we going round in circles or not?

"Yes.  I felt stifled."

"Well that's a change isn't it?  Remember those awful Victorian style high necked things you used to wear?"

"Darling, that was years ago!  I've worn a tee-shirt style nightie for years!"

"Yes.  With knickers.   I remember telling you to lose the knickers once.  You really had a go at  me.  Asked me what you'd do if there was a fire.  Silly, stupid woman."  He grinned affectionately at me, and immediately nestled deeply into the valley between my breasts.

"Well I hope you are enjoying yourself down there" I remarked.

"You have no idea" he mumbled, and pounced on a nipple which immediately grew to the size of Mount Everest.  

Have they always done this?  You know, I don't think they did before.  I really can't remember.  I'm getting forgetful in a lot of areas.  But  I don't think I'd forget this.

It causes me to moan and writhe like a wanton woman.  And it does other things too.  It  makes me blush to think about it.  

"Honey!"  He came up for air.  

His voice had sounded all HOH for a second.

Hmmm.  This isn't maintenance morning.  Or reaffirmation.  Or whatever you prefer to call it.  But that sounded sincerely like he was thinking about a spanking.  I glanced down at him and he glanced up at me.

"It's all right Ami.  I know we have to get up soon, and anyway I can hear Number One Son down below in the kitchen talking to one of his men about the weather.  So I can't spank you as much as I'd like to..."

My goodness, wonders will never cease!  And I didn't say that out loud!  And another thing.  We tried, or rather he tried, to spank me under the duvet yesterday, and I can vouch for the fact that it doesn't work, and you get all tangled up and end up peeing yourself with laughing!  

"...but I need you to do your submissive bit."

He took my hand and guided it down under the aforesaid duvet.

OMG!!!!

"I know" he said.  "I was happily buried in your boobs, when I started thinking about your bottom, and how much I'd like to give it - what did you call it?  A good girl spanking? - and suddenly part of me has developed a mind of its own."

Granite?  Steel?  Titanium?  !!!!!!!!!!

"So... I was just thinking that maybe you could do something about it?"

OMG!!!!

He pulled me downwards.  I'd gone all 'jellyfish like'.  I was too amazed to breathe.  I was virtually hyperventilating.  

(I am still in shock!  In a very very good way I hasten to add!)

So I happily complied.  

And then it was my turn.

OMG!!!!

Forget the elusive O!  I forgot my own name!  It's a wonder I'm not referring to myself as Alicia or Gertrude! 

All I could see for a while was stars!!!

So afterwards, and it was getting very late to be in bed, I looked at him.  

"I can't believe all this" I said.

"I know" he said back.  "Isn't it weird?  I mean, does this always happen d'you think?"

"I don't know" I replied.  "It seems to be a 'side effect' that's getting stronger all the time.  I don't know what to think.  No-one has ever really discussed it.  It's not the sort of thing you'd  talk to your neighbour over the garden fence about!  

I have noticed that you, well, you know, you do have a tendency to feel rather big under me when I'm over your lap.  

But if this happens just from you thinking about it!"

Starman started to laugh and couldn't stop.

"I feel like an oversexed teenager again!"

"So" I said.  "We can forget the need for viagra then?"

"Oh definitely" he replied amidst chuckles. "I think more spanking could be in your future my sweet."




Okay, okay.  I don't for one minute think that that sounds very HOH.  I've yet to be convinced.  We seem to be at a bit of an impasse in that department at the moment.  

But I have to tell you, that I wouldn't in my wildest dreams have ever imagined such a conversation, or such a series of events, even six months ago!

So I suppose what I am asking you all is this.  Could you please explain this little 'side benefit' dear HOHs out there?  And does it always happen?  (Be honest!)  

Because if so, I think I'm going to become a spankaholic!







37 comments:

  1. Hi Ami, Bless ya, We too are in England, love the snow but all this country at a standstill is ridiculous isn't it? We are fairly new at ttwd but a long time married(31 years) and I thinkthis is a great side effect. How old are we? cos' I too feel like a giggly teeneger, loving this life:)I can't believe how much bettere ouf life in the bedroom is mow.Yay. Love your blog, Jan.

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    1. Hi Jan! Hey another Brit! We are gradually moving in on the North American lot! LOL!

      So you know exactly what I am going through at the moment then? I think all the people here have quietly been expecting this reaction, and are now laughing fit to kill. Well, I for one think it's the icing on the cake!

      Wonders will never cease!

      Glad you are enjoying my blog. Many thanks,

      Hugs, Ami

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  2. Hey Ami,
    Glad to see that you are enjoying some side benefits:) I will say that this is the only kind of spanking going on at our house and it is quite delightful:) I love the burying his face bit...hysterical...that is where Levi says he wants to die.
    Hope you get some answers to your questions:) In the mean time...enjoy:)
    Bea

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    1. Hi Bea,

      You know, Starman would agree with Levi 100%!

      It does feel funny, and naughty (no, change that to a little bit wicked). Perhaps it doesn't matter if the first changes are those in the bedroom?

      Hugs, Ami

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  3. I'm smiling for you! LOL sounds wonderful, really! It happens more and more... I think he's getting into this!!

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    1. Yes Emi, I think there are certain aspects that Starman can no longer deny the existence of! It makes you want to be good all the time just so these little occasions become a regular feature! (Now did I say that?! Hmmmm...)

      Hugs, Ami

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  4. *hehehe* Aaaahhhh, yes, the lovely benefits of doing ttwd. I think a better question is, are there any HOH's out there that this doesn't happen? ;)

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    1. Well Grace, I think these benefits should be broadcast somewhat more loudly! But you know, surely the OTK reaps the best results? I haven't yet managed to convince Starman to try any other positions. Are there any other that are as good? Tell me please!

      Hugs, Ami

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    2. Others may disagree, but my answer would be no. To me OTK is the best position because of the closeness. ;)

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  5. Oh Ami,
    This could have been my post yesterday.
    I can't explain it. Maybe with their HOH-yness comes a surge of testosterone.
    Whatever it is...more Puleeze! ;)
    Enjoy!
    Catrinka.

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    1. Catrinka, you too?!!! Oh goody, friends!

      Hugs, Ami

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  6. Well, you two seem to be in a top-category.
    But yes, it always seem to happen.
    Explain it?
    I was hoping you'd write a few blogposts about how all this came to be.

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    1. Bas, trust you to make me giggle like a sixteen year old!!! I wish....

      So it does always seem to happen. Wow!

      I think you are pulling my leg about the blogposts. But I'll let you into a little secret - between you me and the bedpost - I've written a little story, with the encouragement of Minelle, who wrote such a lovely story the other week, and if I summon up enough courage to let it be posted, you might learn a lot about where my 'real' submission started to emerge.

      Hugs, Ami (wink wink)

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  7. Honey, it doesn't just happen to HOH's, plain ole hubbies too. At least in our case it does. Now I understand more fully your comment on my story today. Lovely, isn't it?

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    1. Sunny, your hubby is most definitely not plain and old! Any man who undertakes the adventure of a lifetime deserves a pedestal in my book! You are one lucky lady!!

      And yes, it's unexpected, but brilliant!

      Hugs, Ami

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  8. Yep, it always happens. Isn't it wonderful? Heeheehee :)

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    1. Hello Faerie,

      Thank you for stopping by! I can't believe my luck that it always happens! I'm still in a happy dream about it! Poor Starman, he's going to get worn out! I'll have to build up his stamina! Or maybe, if he spanks a lot, he will build up his own stamina. Now there's a thought!

      Hugs, Ami

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  9. I think it's pretty much a natural cause and effect situation! So...stop worrying and enjoy!!! :)

    Sara

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    1. Cause and effect does it for me too! I think I've stopped worrying already. I'm just celebrating all my birthdays coming at once! I knew you were trying to explain something to me when I first started commenting on 'what you do'! At the time I wondered why you would enjoy it so much - well, lady, now I know!!!

      Hurrah!

      Hugs, Ami

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  10. Ami - Don't worry, y'all are normal. As you submit, feeling and showing more of your submissive side, he feels and shows more of his dominant side...becomes a lovely circle. :)

    Just enjoy...

    Blessings,
    Cat

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    1. Cat I just love the way you talk! Are you from the deep South? I simply have to chat to you live one day if you talk like this! I shall have to practise saying Y'all myself.

      Well, for us, this feeling and showing his dominant side seems to be initiating itself in the bedroom. I don't think I'd better grumble. I'll just carry on enjoying....

      Hugs, Ami

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  11. Ami twice I have commented and it's not showing up!! Grrrr!
    To answer your question.... Um ....yes! Totally crazy! Wild. Like he can barely wait. All he has to do is say spanking now. (or think it)
    And he always spanked in a gentle sort of take control way.

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    1. Third time lucky Minelle! It is crazy and wild - I fully agree. And I like the part about spanking in a gentle sort of take control way. I can even go with a 'you are never to do this again' sort of way, so long as he is controlled. I like to feel he is in control when I am in the face down position! Although at times I think I'm going to smother myself in the duvet!

      Hugs, Ami

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  12. Wonderful side effect isn't it?

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    1. It most certainly is Mrs D!

      Hugs, Ami

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  13. I love it!!!!!!!!

    Yep.. . it's a great side effect!!

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    1. Yes Elle, and I'll bet it didn't take you and your Fireman long to discover either! LOL!

      Hugs, Ami

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    1. It's better than sliced bread! Thanks Meg for stopping by.

      Hugs, Ami

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  15. Hi Ami, What everyone else said. Glad you two are discovering the benefits of TTWD :)

    It is a great side effect. With TTWD comes a greater closeness, oneness and intimacy. Plus, spanking is of course a sensual and intimate act. Also, as Cat said, as you show more or your submissive side, he shows more dominance and vice versa.

    For us it seems to depend on the kind of spanking. If it's a spanking for correction it doesn't usually happen, because the tone is serious and because of the emotions involved. Disappointment, anger etc. But other kinds of spankings ... well ... :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. It is a mega side effect Roz. I'm glad we are discovering this side effect too! But you know, I hope even if he feels the need to correct me, that we can still kiss, hug and make love afterwards, despite a sore bum, because I know I would crave forgiveness and reassurance of his love and guidance. Even if the love making was rather more (aggressive isn't the right word, and neither is rough, but you know what I mean?) demanding and energetic? Love and trust means I need to submit in the bedroom too! (Oh, I'm so not good at this!)

      Hugs, Ami

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    2. Hi Ami, aftercare after such a spanking is important, and this is something Rick is very good at. He cuddles and soothes me and is very attentive and reassures me of his love and that I am forgiven. It just doesn't usually lead to the other kind of connection immediately (well, sometimes it does) .... but it does usually happen later :) as we are feeling super connected after the spanking and feeling our roles.

      Hugs
      Roz

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  16. Ami, you are so cute! There is nothing wrong with you whatsoever...this is all very normal. Enjoy it!

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    1. Oh I will, I will Susie! This is more of a vertical learning curve than I had ever imagined!

      Hugs, Ami

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  17. LOL. Yes. It always happens. And yes, even when he's just THINKING about spanking me it happens. And during the "getting into position" stage it happens too. Ta-da!

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    1. Fondles I love it! I don't care if the whole world knows it! It's the best side effect ever!

      Hugs, Ami

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  18. Lol Ami
    You so British hun :) yeap I'm a Brit too so understand.
    It is normal and it happens here too. I don't get many otk, because of this. If its a punishment he doesn't like otk as it "distracts" him, so he rather do otb or otc.
    However we do most of the time end up having rudies afterwards lol it's part of the reconnection x
    Glad you are enjoying yourself, don't worry you're not weird :)

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